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Well I have watched it a few times myself to maybe help my feelings about it. But it still hurts my feelings knowing he watches it. I've also tried sending him pictures, which he has plenty, but i know he still watches the porn. I've also said let's watch it together. But he's never said ok let's watch it together or made the effort to do it with me. I told him it might make me feel better if we do it together but as I just said he hasn't made that effort. I want HIM to ask me to watch it so it shows he does care how I feel about it an wants to try different things to help me cope with it.
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It appears to me from what you have written that you are making all the effort here to come to grips with your problem with pornography. Your boyfriend on the other hand is not helping any and if anything is hindering any attempt you make to change your own perception of pornography.
I have to say you boyfriend is a bit of a caveman in his attitude towards you, especially in this area. Where I live we would call him a good ole country boy. All for men and none for women.
Just for the record there's nothing wrong with consenting adults watching porn. My wife and I have watched porn together and I know of many of my friends who have watched porn with their wives and girlfriends. It is simply for the titillation effect and nothing more.
About the only thing left for you to try is to have a CD all set to go or a tape, do they still make those things, and invite him over. Get comfortable on the couch as if you're going to watch TV and turn the CD on and see what happens. If he gets up and turn the CD off then I would say you have your answer as far as you and him ever watching pornography together.
It is not my place to tell you what to do as far as a relationship with this man. What I will say is this: IF he were to turn of the CD and get angry for you trying to trick him into watching with you. This should give you some insight into what it would be like to spend a lifetime with this man. As I said from what you have written I see someone with a cave man attitude towards women. This is way out of step with what is acceptable today.
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