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Cheated on my boyfriend
It's a complicated story but basically I cheated on my boyfriend last night and I don't feel bad about it. I cheated on him with a guy I used to have sex with (person A) that I never got over. We never really established anything romantic, but he's a guy I always saw around campus and always lusted after. When I got the chance to sleep with him I did. To make matters worst, after having sex with person A and sort of drifting apart he eventually started dating a distant acquaintance of mine. His girlfriend and I became really close, but til this day she doesn't know I ever slept with person A, her boyfriend. Person A and I began having sex sometime after he got with his girlfriend (So basically I've been having sex with my friend's boyfriend.)
But to get back to the story, person A and my boyfriend are close to each other and knew each other for years. I met my boyfriend through person A. We promised we wouldn't tell my boyfriend of the past but we never agreed that we wouldn't have sex, but it was implied. However, last night after coming from a party, not so much under the influence we had sex. I do not feel bad about it and would like to do it again.
So basically I cheated on my boyfriend with his close friend that I'd been banging before meeting him, and the same guy is a close friend of mines boyfriend. I don't know what's wrong with me.
Sn: When I have sex with my boyfriend I think about the other guy. And I've had sex with other guys and they don't seem to be a factor in this.
Female: 21
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So about a month ago I would've just ignored your question, and would have honestly thought "Gosh, why can't she control herself?"
But a few weeks ago I had the experience of a one night stand, and now I totally understand what its like, how easy it is, blah blah blah so I've chosen to answer your question.
You're 21. You obviously have a high sex drive-and there is nothing wrong with this. But what is wrong really is that you do cheat on your boyfriend. You'd be 100% better off single, and free. You've tried having a boyfriend and staying committed to that one person. I didn't work. And its not fair therefore to remain with your boyfriend.
Its not fair on him-but its not fair on you either. You'd probably be happier as a free spirit, who can sleep with whoever she likes.
You may not want to end things with your boyfriend, but if you want to be happy with yourself then I think you should end it. You couldn't control yourself last night-so this could happen again.
You said you would do it again? Girl, you're not a committed girlfriend at all.
Split up with him, enjoy the sex life that you want to, and then your boyfriend and yourself will come out of this in the least hurt way possible.
I don't see how this relationship can survive if you carry on the way you are doing.
Good luck :)
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