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Hey I am so confused and kind of scared now
Hi. I'm the freshman girl who has asked a couple of questions (from now on just call me Guard-Girl) and someone posted some advice ont he last question about the junior guy I like. They said that i should leave him alone because he will be 18 and i will be 15 and he could be up for Stautory rape if we did anything. But I wouldn't want to do 'that' with ANYONE not even a boyfriend. I am to young for that.(I would NEVER even think abou tdoing that with him!) But i really like him... I don't know what to do now!! I'm kind of scared to like him. I need some serious advice because i will be with him in school for the next two years and I really like him!!! HELP ME!
~Guard-Girl
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Hello Guard girl,
I can see where that would scare you. It might also be the reason some 18 yo guys don't date the younger girls.
It is okay to just date someone who is younger, as long as there is no sex. So who's to say there was or not.
Because it would likely be the word of one person against the other, a guy would not want to get messed up with an immature female who might just say he forced sex on her because she is pissed at him for something. You know that you both are not like that. So no worries there.
Next, the age of consent varies between states from 16-years-old to 18-years-old. So look up your state on line. So like put a search for example "Age of consent in Alabama" just put in your state. That way you'll know if your state says - its okay once you turn 16 to have sex with an 18 yo or older. You still may not be ready at 16 to have sex with a partner. As long as you are exploring your sexuality on your own and learning to become comfortable with your own genitals and exploring them, then all is good.
Since both of you are shy, you most likely will move slowly and the year to 3 years time shouldn't be a big deal to either of you. Both of you should be taking care of your sexual urges if any on your own in private. When together, holding hands, hugging, cuddling and kissing are not considered rape so you are safe there. Just enjoy your male friend and don't focus on those naysayers. I think you have a possible wonderful guy there.
I have also heard that is it easier for people who have never had sex with a partner to resist having it with one because of the fact that they having experienced it yet. There are extra factors that come into play that are wonderful feelings and experiences that masturbation falls far short of. So if both of you havent had a sex partner yet, it should not be a bodily memory fighting your mind to do the stupid thing. Two people can love each other or fall in love without having had sex yet. Nice to hear from you again GG.
Hugs from Dragonfly
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