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My fiance gets me to do 100% of the house work like a slave
It's really rediculous sometimes I get so mad I just walk out the door. I did tht last night and she ended up being the one getting mad! Its crazy she treats me like a slave. I do 100% of all the dish washing and cleaning. I wash all the clothes and hang them up. All she does is cook for herself and her child and takes her to school. Now shes even getting me to do her kids homework with her! Dont get me wrong Idont have anything about doing work but the way she is getting me to do it I feel that she is only with me to use as her personal slave. When I dont do any of these things she gets really pissed off. I have tried to talk to her but she just ends up shouting at me. Its really rediculous. I do not plan to leave her because ofthis as its not that big a deal its just annoying to the extreme. Why wont she help around the house? What the heck did she do before I came into her life hire a maid or something?
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I am wondering, was she like this before you proposed and put the engagement ring on her finger? How long did you know her before she changed? Since you say you don't know what she did before you came along, theres some important info about her past that you may not know. How much have you checked into her past? Are her parents like this? Are there any behavioral signs that might point to a mental disorder or emotional disorder? It may not be that noticeable now but continue to grow worse in the future. That happened to me. The husband continued to become more mentally sick and began to emotionally abuse me. She gets mad now, you could be hearing emotional verbal abuse directed at you 24/7. It might not be the case, she could simply be looking for a free ride ticket, someone to do everything for her, the kids, pay the way. What will she choose to do with her free time? Go to school and have you pay? Maybe. But if she's too lazy to keep her own home at least half the time, she won't apply herself in school. So will she put most her time into some hobbies of hers? If she gets bored with life because there is no depth to it because of her own choices, she may go looking for something to fill a wish for something new to entertain her, whether it be drinking and partying while you run the house, be father to the kids and pay for it all, or she may do something fun like gambling, drugs, start cheating. I could be totally wrong but all the stories I have come across in my life with the scenerio you paint...did not end up "Happily ever after" You sound like a man who wants to be honorable, one who sticks to a commitment made. You are not married yet, but even in marriage, if one partner doesn't carry their half of the load. I have a quote: "Happily ever after doesn't happen just because you wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so." I should know...I lived that life and learned the lesson after 30 yrs of trying to stick with the dysfuntional person.
Let me point out that your emotions are being whipped into a frenzy already, and mentally you are finding yourself unable to cope by getting angry and walking out the door. You have an emotion of being resentful at how she is treating you. You feel confused because you call the situation ridiculous since there is no logic rhyme or reason for it that you can see Yet. You feel annoyed.
Make a list of pro's and cons. So far, I have a big list of Cons from you. I have not yet heard a list of the Pros. I will try a guess...dont mean to be disrespectful but many couples marry for only this reason. Are the pros, that she is beautiful in looks and the sex is terrific? That is not enough to base a marriage on.
After all I have said, if you still can't see anything wrong with this, then perhaps this is exactly what you want out of life..to be unhappy, uncherished, taken advantage of and abused. Some souls incarnate simply to experience the darker side of life so if that is why you want to plunge ahead with this, who am I to say no. In that case, there really wasn't any logical reason for you to write in for advice. You deserve to have a woman who is your equal and loves you unconditionally...they are out there.
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