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Embarrassing freckle
So I have this pretty big dark brown freckle "down there" in the area where the pubic hair grows and it's right in the middle. I have been insecure about it my whole life, and my last boyfriend was a jerk about it. We didn't have sex but he did see the freckle and he texted me about it saying why do you have that Indian dot by your vagina it made me wana throw up. He seriously said that. And we cared about eachother alot. But we eventually broke up and I have a new boyfriend but I'm scared to do anything sexual with him because I don't want him to see the freckle and have the same reaction. Is it really that bad?
Btw I don't plan on losing my virginity for a long time. I'm 16 and I'm a girl
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I actually bookmarked your question on purpose to answer first when I logged on with enough time to answer in depth. When I was your age I had a pimple in the same general area (I'm male).
I was obsessed I was dying of something horrid if you'd believe but learned that it was just a freckle, you can get one anywhere, and that the skin is actually rougher and different pigment means different colors and marks that aren't present anywhere else on the body.
Your ex-boyfriend is a real dim bulb to say the least. He should understand that something like a freckle no matter where it was really doesn't matter much. He'd throw up over it? Please. He's a jerk and immature and shouldn't be looking at that area period.
I know your current beau wouldn't give this freckle a second thought nor would most males.
You should be honest with your new boyfriend and tell him one day you will be ready for intimacy but your boorish ex made a big deal of the freckle. Tell him he had you really upset and you feared if he saw it he'd do the same thing and bail.
I know he will be supportive and won't be phased at all. He'd probably be more scared about what you thought of his parts than anything else in that instance. Talk to him about that one negative experience and how it makes you apprehensive about anything sexual as it did a number on your self-image.
You'll be fine. Odds are unless you told him about it he wouldn't notice or if he did it wouldn't bother him or most guys at all.
Don't let that one person ruin your self-esteem or put you off of sex with a committed partner when ready for it. He was an idiot and pretty dumb to text about it or break up over it. His loss. You gained a better partner in the long run so you'll be fine.
You probably have had the freckle since birth but didn't notice it or see it as prominently as before. Unless it is something new or changing color or size it's not a growth so I wouldn't worry at all about that at all if it were on your mind.
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