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Boyfriend is acting odd
18/f
My boyfriend and I are long distance, and we normally talk at least a little every day be it through text, or on skype. He's always been a generally happy person.
A few weeks ago one of his friend's lost their mother and he was extremely distraught the day before and the day of the funeral. He lost his older brother four years ago and still can't stand funerals, so when he started acting strange I offered to let him vent, but otherwise gave him the space he wanted.
So I gave him a week, occasionally checking to see if he was doing okay. It's been about two weeks since then and he's really distant. He's been very moody, aggravated, generally ignores me unless he wants to tell me something terrible that has happened. I can't approach him about his weird behavior because he just starts an argument with me. I'm so confused because I don't know what to do. He ignores any IMs, texts, or calls from me 95% of the time and I'm not sure if he's angry with me or what's happening. Then that rare 5% he's back to his normal self, aside from the fact we'll be in the middle of a conversation and he'll just stop responding.
I want him to feel better, but I don't know how to help him, and as a partner in this relationship I really don't appreciate being treated like this either. So what should I do? Should I try and make him explain why he's been acting this way, or should I just leave it alone and wait out his behavior? Or, is there another option I should consider?
Note: A few factors I should probably include are:
1) He's not too terribly close with the girl who lost her mother.
2) A friend offered the theory of he cheated with her, but I don't believe that. He's an anti-cheating kind of person, and the girl has a boyfriend she's in love with. Plus, even if she didn't have a boyfriend, I trust him.
3) As a couple and as friends, he and I get along very well. We do fight on a rare occasion, but it's honestly not very much.
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