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I'm being threatened / harassed, what should I do?
So I've with my boyfriend for a year and 5 months now. His older sister hates me. She was very nice when she first met me but when she found out i'm dating her brother, she told her family that I started threatening her via texting. But I don't even have her number. Her family spoils her rotten. They don't care if she did something wrong, they'll always be on her side. And even if they did tell her something, she wouldn't listen anyway. Eventually her lie was exposed and she covered it up by saying it was a test to see if I could stand her bitchyness to be with her brother. And since i'm a peaceful person, I just let it slide. Then, when she found out I went to the movies with my ex (we're still friends, we did not do anything inappropriate), she flipped and called me shady. When she saw me, she told me to walk away now or she'll hit me. Now i'm not a spineless person, so of course I wanted to say something but my boyfriend told me to just ignore her and keep walking. Another time, she told me i'm not supposed to be at their house and I gave her attitude so she threatened to beat me up. I was said whatever. Right after she said that, my boyfriend went to my house but I guess he wasn't supposed to leave so she drove to my house, banged the door a couple of times, and actually tried to open the door! Thank good the door was locked. When no one answered, she texted my boyfriend saying 'I'll be back :)' I did not want to cause trouble so I just endured it. However, she crossed the line last night. I was waiting for my boyfriend in my car when suddenly I see her pull up the drive way. She stopped behind me so I figured I must be in her way so I moved forward a little bit. But then she got out of the car and banged on my car telling me to leave and I'm not supposed to be there. I told her i'm not on her poverty, i'm parked on the street so I don't need to leave. She then threatens to call the cops while banging on my car multiple times. I challenged her to do so but she just kept hitting my car. She tried to open my car door but the doors were locked. However, the sun roof was open. When I finally decided to just ignore her, I felt something hit my ear really hard. I figured she had hit me through the sun roof. When I was about to get out of the car to hit her back because I was furious at that point, I noticed my boyfriend already came out and he pushed her to get her away from me. She screamed at him, yelling 'what? Are you gonna kill me?' He just went inside and told his grandparents then got in my car. I'm very sick and tired of her behaviors. My friends suggest I should file a claim on her. Should I? Keep in mind that she's 19 and I'm 18. Her family never once apologized to me about her behaviors. All they ever tell me is to just ignore her. Well obviously that isn't working. I feel like she's only picking on me cause i'm way smaller than her. She's 3 times my size. My boyfriend told me that a long time ago when she was acting all tough with this girl, the girl actually called her out to fight her. Instead of fighting her like she's always said she would since she acts like a badass, she just called the cops on the other girl. I tried to talk it out with her but she doesn't listen. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry if I have any grammar mistakes, I moved to the U.S. from Hong Kong 10 years ago but my grammar is still really bad.
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Don't worry about your grammar. THere is no problem with it. You are still getting use to it. Other than that, I would suggest next time she starts harassing you in such a manner, even attacking you like she did, I would begin recording the incident right away. This way, if you have to go to the police, you can provide viable proof of the harassment and possible endangerment to yourself by her. Don't fight back, otherwise you could also get into trouble. Just record the next incident(s) on your phone, and if it gets to be too much for you, take it to the police and explain what has been happening, and showing them the video(s). I don't know how your boyfriend and his family would react to this, but you must consider your personal safety. You never know, she may end up going too far someday and end up really hurting you.
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