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My boyfriend takes other girls on dates, but he will not take me..
2 weekends ago, I found out by looking through my boyfriend's phone that he has been meeting up with this girl. I found out that he took her to a movie on one weekend and confronted him about it. (He has never taken me to the movies. In fact, we don't go on dates. Ever. We only went on one 'date' in our 8 month relationship, to a diner where he spent about $4.50 on each of our plates, and I recall he was being cheap and ordered water for both of us instead of soda. I thought by confronting him, he would stop taking this girl out. After all, he has been caught. This weekend, I went to my parents house for the weekend. I came back on Sunday to find a receipt on the floor for a moderately nice Meditteraneian restaurant. He spent 34 dollars total on their dinner. I also found a corkscrew on the counter, and we didnt own a corkscrew because we never drank wine together. He had her here at our apartment sometime this weekend and he treated her to a nice dinner and a bottle of wine. It really hurts me because he never makes an effort to do something nice like that, for me. I texted him telling him I have caught him for the second time, and I asked him "Why am I not good enough to take out to dinner, the movies, or buy a bottle of wine for?" He answered: "Honestly, I don't want to tell you why." I then told him that there would be no sex until he started treating me like a girlfriend and he stopped taking girls out on dates. He just responded with an "okay." This got me very angry, so I told him he had a small penis. I knew it would get to him. (His penis IS pretty small, calling it average would be an overstatement.) I am pregnant with his baby and I love him. We tell each other we love each other but I don't think he ever loved me if he could repeatedly be hurting me like this. The solution to this problem is easy, all I want is to be taken out on dates, not ditched while he goes with other girls. What is his problem? He said I am always welcome here in his apartment, which means he just wants me to stay so he can have sex on demand and I know he feels bad about kicking his pregnant girlfriend out. What should I do?
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i agree.. this has got to stop.
yes, you are pregnant (congratulations) but no, there is now nothing between you and him, and although it might hurt you to do it, you have to go. you are better than this. and you deserve to be treated better.
he is just having the best of both worlds, on one hand he has you, faithful, dependable, live in "girlfriend"... and on the other hand theres her (or more than one her) fun, exciting, not pregnant.
i know all this from experience, both from being in your situation, and his...
you need to go. stay strong xx
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Leave.
He's not your boyfriend anymore. He only allows you to stay in his apartment because you are his pregnant, unemployed, EX-girlfriend. Frankly, he probably only has sex with you in a very mistaken, confused effort to keep the peace between you two. He's might be relieved to make your relationship even more like roommates, and continue to date others.
That isn't a relationship.
He doesn't want to be with you.
Maybe he does love you. Maybe part of him would like to make it work between you two, but not a large enough part, because he definitely doesn't want to act like your boyfriend anymore.
This relationship is over.
You have broken up. (Even if neither of you have admitted it).
One or both of you need to find somewhere else to live. Probably you.
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