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Is this infatuation?
F/16
We've been in a relationship for 4 months now, the first 3 months was all sweet, we would talk for hours, we would talk about the future together and having children, they wouldn't be a moment in a day where we wasn't texting or on the phone. After the 3 months, we started constantly arguing because the lack of communication, jealousy, effort and etc. After we would argue, we would make up, but nothing would be the same anymore, I'd try making plans, talking about the future, just so it would go back to normal, but it wouldn't, somehow I felt like he's withdrawing, he wouldn't share his idea's on the future anymore, he would start to seem bored with our texting and phone calls and he wouldn't make plans into doing things with me. We argue almost all the time, then once we makeup, nothing is the same. I feel emotionally attached to him, I feel like I need him because I can't see my life without him, I see him in my future when we're settled down with children, I love everything about him, his flaws make him more perfect to me, I'm unsure whether this is love or infatuation and I'm confused whether he does care. Since a couple of days we've been arguing and not really speaking, I asked him if he even cared and he told me to go away. Can this relationship even be saved? I explain myself to him and what I'm feeling but it doesn't seem like the understands my feelings and words, a week or so ago, I ignored him and used the no-contact rule because the lack of communcation and I felt like I wasn't being cared about, then he texted me within 2 days and he was making the effort and it felt like US at the start of our relationship, but once we started talking and I started making much more effort (because when he texted, I never really made an effort into speaking) but then I started to and he went back to the way he was again. Has anyone got any tips on what I can do? If this is love or infatuation? Can this relationship be saved? Or do I just let it go and move on? Also, he told me to go away after I asked if he cared, I'm not going to text him, but he'll text me now he knows I'm not communicating, how should I respond? In what attitude and what do I say?
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I can't really tell you what to do or say,but this is my honest opinion. This guy is definitely confusing when it comes to showing feelings. First,he's all lovey-dovey,then he's cold,then he starts acting like he cares once you start giving him the cold shoulder. What you feel might very well be love,but it also might not be. Either way,this is starting to be one-sided love. Sorry,but this guy is just not worth it. You're 16. Think about it: a girl like you,young,probably beautiful and smart,holding onto one guy like there are no others? Please don't do that. I'm just a bit older than you and I've gone through the same thing,but it just won't work. There's nothing you can do,aside from keep using the no contact rule. Show him he can't take you for granted,and give him the taste of his own medicine. Once you feel ready,dump him. The sooner,the better. It may sound cliche,but you really do deserve better. No girl deserves a guy who will be like that. I know how it hurts to be treated like that. That's why I'm telling you all this. The point is:you need to end this,and by no means should you let him talk you into continuing to be with him. Hope this will help you.
Good luck,whatever you decide to do.
StarPrincess
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