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my boyfriend is "best friends" with his ex.
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and we live together. He is best friends with his ex girlfriend, which whom he talks to every day. They text at all hours of the night and have a very odd friendship. one time I was going through his messages and he had a message from her at 3 am telling him to come over and "cuddle". We have gotten into arguements over this girl many times and I don't know what to do anymore. He cheated on me during the beginning of our relationship so I am of course paranoid. He swears to me they are just friends but my gut tells me other wise. How do I approach him with this or should I let it go?
He dated her 2 years ago and lived with her. I have told him that I don't want him to cut ties with a close friend but I there is nothing I want then for him to cut her off.
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Well,I can understand your situation,because I'm also in one similar to yours.
My boyfriend dated his bestfriend,because he felt I was taking to long to decide if I wanted to date him.They did break up,and now we're together.
Then,he almost kissed her,because he claimed she looks like me,but she looks completely different than I do.
But that's not the point.The point is,is that if it's making you feel like this,then I feel you should confront him about the situation,and explain to him how it's making you feel.
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The whole texting him at 3am to come over to cuddle is definitely crossing a line, but it's only really serious if he did it. I'm pretty close friends with one of my exes, and though I'm not seeing anyone right now, it wasn't a problem when I was. Normally, I would be pretty much on his side, and telling you not to worry, because being friends with an ex isn't too uncommon, but the fact that he's cheated on you in the past makes it less likely that you are making something out of nothing. He definitely shouldn't be texting back and forth with her while lying next to you in bed. I'd suggest talking to him about some of this more serious behavior. Make it clear that you aren't asking him to stop talking to her (even if that really is what you want) but point out that he's going overboard and ask him to tone it down a bit.
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