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Ex trouble
Me and my ex broke up just over a year ago, I broke up with him, not for any particular reason, I just didn't really want to be with him any more as I found our relationship had become a bit boring. I wanted to remain friends, but he claimed to find the break up very hard and cut off all connections to me (deleting my number, removing/blocking me on all social networking sites etc) until out of the blue about 2 months ago he sent me a message asking how I was doing. After deliberation I decided not to reply. Me and him know quite a lot of the same people, and I always hear things he's said about me, however I always hear very different things, for example ill hear from one person that hes still obsessed with me and hear from another that hes told them him and myself were never really anything special. Since we broke up, he hasn't really played on my mind at all and I've been very happy, but he is now with someone else, and all of a sudden after all this time he's playing on my mind. I am starting to feel I maybe should have replied to his message, however the other half of me is telling me I don't need him and could find someone better. He has been in my dreams for the last 3 nights, and has never been before. I guess i'm a bit jealous. I just don't really know whether I do still have feelings for him or it's just an initial common jealousy that all people get when their ex meets someone new. I don't really know what to do next?
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This is a typical case of "I want what I can't have." before, you heard little stories and thought you were in the driving seat of the whole situation, now that he has moved on you realise you weren't quite where you were hoping you would be and it's set you on a back-track if you will.
Let's face it, your story just says the relationship ran it's course. No hard feelings, nobody hurt anyone else, just it had done and you were happy with it being like that. Most often this is the case, sometimes you find you just need a break and things get better again, but you usually would be upset and miss your boyfriend during this break, sounds like you genuinely just wanted to move on to the next stage in your life, and that's fine.
My advice is to just carry on, don't spoil things for him, he moved on and is happy now. You just focus on work/school and enjoy YOUR life, meet someone new who excites you and then when you make peace with your ex having a new gf perhaps you can meet her and even be her friend, if not then no worries, your not expected to like the new women, that's a given, and the new women don't tend to like the ex. Women are very territorial lol.
As I said, just forget about this situation and carry on with your life how you want to live it.
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