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hi! I am 18/f years old and i was reading your column and you seem like a really level headed girl so i was wondering if you could answer some questions for me so i can compare it to my relationship (i dont know if im in the right one) thank you for your time!
1. do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? if you do, how long have you known this person
2. do you think relationships have flaws?
3. do you get angry easily with people?
4. how do you know a relationship is the right one?
5. why do i feel like i cannot trust my boyfriend when he never gives me a reason not to trust him? can i fix this?
6. i want my boyfriend to treat me like a princess, and i want him to buy me lots of stuff and pay for everything.. is this wrong? how do i get him to do this?
THANK YOU!
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1. yes, i do have a boyfriend. uhm, I've known him for what feels like FOREVER haha, but its been like five months, give or take.
2. yes ! no relationship is perfect. NO RELATIONSHIP. flaws are aprt of life. we're all human, sooo itd be beyond abnormal if my relationship didnt have flaws. I mean, theres not even a lot, but everyone has baggage.
3. hmmmm, not really. i mean, i have a short temper with some things, but for the most part, im pretty chill.
4. you just know. like, after a while of being with the person, its not a question you ask yourself. it just comes naturally and easily and it just feels right. like, if it felt wrong, youd know. and if you have to constantly question how you feel, than its not the right relationship for you. (besides the factor of abuse and all of that if there is any, than GET OUT. its not right on any level.)
5. maybe you have trust issues. i can relate. were you hurt by someone before ? did anything significant happen before in your life that has affected you with trusting people ? if not, it can just be a fear you have. everyone has their "fears" and such. its pretty normal. some people are too trusting, others are not trusting enough. and yeah, you can fix it. communication is key. let your boyfriend know how you feel and that you have trust issues but that its not his fault and that youre working on it... and then actually work on it. FORCE yourself to trust him even when everything in you is telling you not to. he deserves your trust if he hasnt done anything. relationships are based alot on trust.. its basically the foundation. so push yourself.
6. uhm, well, this is not how i view relationships. like, at all. yeah, you both should treat eachother right, but it should be pretty equal with this stuff. in my oppinion, it is wrong. how would you feel if he wanted you to treat him like a king and do everything you just said..... ? yeah.. not so good. soooo uhm, im not going to tell you how to get him to do this.. sorrrrry !
hope i helped ! xxo.
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