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Met a girl who lives across the Atlantic online..
Hi,
I'm a 16 year old guy and live in New York. I was just bored a few weeks ago and signed up for "flirtbox"(www.flirtbox.com), I came across this girls profile who lives in the Netherlands(pictures werent very clear, but she seemed cool and open minded), and she liked traveling. She was the same age as me so I sent her a message. We started chatting back and forth, and she says she's really into the Indian culture(I'm American Indian), so we hit it off, talking about school and what we're studying...
so then, she gives me her MSN(no facebook, she said she didn't have one and I was very skeptical..), but we talked on MSN a lot, and then she asked if I had "Viber", I said no but I googled it, its an iphone app where smartphones can call other smartphones for free(its through the internet), so we exchanged numbers.
we started chatting, and yes, she is a real girl and she sent me more pictures...she's really into me, and I'm really into her. It's not just the personality part, she's really attractive(shes russian and Kurdish) and she thinks im good looking too. we've really hit it off, and we've now been talking for a few weeks(almost calling each other every day, but theres a 6 hour time difference...) we were talking about how we wanted to meet, but she's in school and I'm in school, and we're both 16...so it's not like I can just get a plane ticket for the Netherlands and fly over there next week to see her. we both really want to keep this relationship going, we talk about so many personal things, there are things I've told her that ive never told any girl that ive met in real life(and she does the same thing with me), sometimes I wake up at 7 AM on a saturday just to wake up and talk to her on the phone for hours because of the time differnce. shes open minded and flirty and just perfect...
Assuming it's a real girl(i know it is for a fact, we've even video chatted thru face-time), how do I go about this relationship...?
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Relationship standards are based on upon you and your partner's ideals, not a social perspective of what a relationship should be like. What I'm trying to say is that, if you want to have a long distance relationship with a girl who lives in a different timezone, you have to make sure you set your priorities straight. It might be hard to go see her now, but if you're really dedicated to making the relationship work, why don't you keep focusing on school in the meantime, get a parttime job, and save up for a plane ticket there (assuming you have the freedom to do so). If you don't, I wouldn't advise such a relaltionship, if you value physical contact with one another. If you're okay with just talking online and on the phone, then that's perfectly fine, and you might as well call that your relationship. Don't let society's standards define your relationship, you define what you want for yourself.
Hope everything works out for you. Best of luck.
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