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I've only known this guy for two weeks and he's demanding compliments?
So I've been talking to this guy for like 2 weeks off and on. I think we get along really great and have a ton in common and could have possibilities but he's being really insistent on me consistently complimenting him and it's really irritating me.
I can not stand attention whores and he's starting to act like one. He was away for one single day and he left me this message saying he'd miss me with a heart on fb before he left which I didn't respond to since he was going to be away without internet I knew he wouldn't get the message so I just assumed I'd wait until he came back. Well then he came back and acted all hurt that I didn't leave a message but I told him I was going to when he came back and he got upset and said I should have just left one anyways because it wasn't like the message would vanish.
He also commented on one of my photos saying how cute I was but it was a really old photo from like 3 years ago so I just said "Lol that's such an old photo but thank you." and he got upset about that too asking why I didn't say something sweet back.
Then he said "I'm just saying you should know being warm and saying nice/loving things is VERY important to me"... like I just thought that was fishing for compliments.
We aren't even going out we've just been messaging and talking on the phone and he's already acting like he expects stuff out of me and he said because where he's living right now for religious reasons that we wouldn't meet for quite a while.
Well I think that's grounds alone for him not to expect anything of me and for us to just be normal friends until he can come back to America and actually hang out with me and see if we have chemistry face to face.
He then said "I'm sure you've felt the warmness coming from me before through compliments I've given you" which he's relating to the facebook comments and messages but come on those are just random sentences that don't mean anything. People compliment each other over facebook all the time and sorry if I can't feel warmness for some guy I've only talked to and messaged.
So anyways just to get over the conversation I apologized but he kept beating at it and going on about it!
He said this as well which I think was a little over exaggerated "I mean think about it. we'd have to have a pretty strong reason to want to be together rather than with somebody close by and convenient. So to say no warm lovey stuff before we meet is craziness. We obviously like each other more than anyone close by, so theres no reason we cant express it." Doesn't that sound at least a little obnoxious or is it just me?
It's not like I've never complimented him before because I have...a lot. He's just freaking out over the one message I didn't reply to and the compliment I didn't apparently return when he complimented my facebook photo. He also said that if he compliments one of my photos I should compliment his too which I think is bs. Why am I required to force fake sweetness for something I don't really feel? That's a little crazy isn't it?
Then he was like "go ahead lay the compliments on me and then go say something sweet on one of my photos in a cute round about way." LOL WTH? Is this guy psycho or is it just me?
Who the hell tells people straight out that they demand compliments and they demand them now and where everybody can see them? Not even the desperate celebrities on tv do that!
What do you think I should do about this? Do you think this is enough reason to think we could never work and to drop him and just forget we ever met? I really cannot stand attention whores.
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Drop him.
Is he a psycho or attention whore? It's hard to know really. Online communication can be so stilted, but that is also why you really need to trust your gut.
Is he a good romantic match for you? (or you, for him?) Absolutely NOT.
He has certainly shown at least a tendency to be controlling and obnoxious, and I'd drop a guy for that. But more importantly you know, beyond a doubt, that you are have very different ideas of what this connection is right now, of how is should develop and how you should show respect and care for others.
There is no reason to think a relationship with this guy could work. So let it go.
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