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What are we right now?
Okay so my friend/ex-bf and I still like each other but everyone in our school would say stuff if we started dating again (since we had kind of a bad break up but we worked it out). So we wanna be friends for a while since we hadnt talked in 2 months and then later on date. I don't have a problem with that. But when we were hanging out, we started making out and we agreed that since we will start dating again that kissing as friends won't be a big deal. Is that a friends with benefits? We aren't doing anything besides kissing but does that still count? Btw we are both 15 and I am turning 16 soon, if that makes a difference.
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I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but right now you are embarrassed. It's not a bad thing and I'm sorry I couldn't think of a better word, but let me explain. It seems as if the two of you want to be and would be in a relationship, but you're worried about what everyone would think. Again, this isn't a bad thing, just the way it is and you're totally justified in being worried about it. It's a definite possibility that there will be people that disagree with your decision and do not want the two of you to be together. First, drop the whole friends act. If you're just doing it to soften the blow for your friends and family it is going to leave the two of you confused. You're in a relationship, albeit a secret relationship, but a relationship just the same. If you try to label it as friends, you may be setting yourself up to get hurt. What if you find out your guy was making out with another girl and he tells you that it's because you're just friends and not committed to each other? Save yourself the confusion and just be in a relationship if that's what you want to do. The best way to break it to everyone is to explain it. You said that you had a bad breakup and you worked out your differences. The people that are close to you know more details than that and they won't be satisfied with a quick explanation. You should explain to some of them exactly what you worked out, how you worked it out, and why you worked it out. The more you explain and the more honest you are, the better chance that people will be accepting of it. It's possible that your family doesn't like him anymore simply because the two of you broke up. If you got back together, maybe they'd be fine. The main thing I want you to take out of this is that you and this guy can't just be friends. That's pretty clear. Just be honest with yourselves and with everyone else. Good luck!
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Friends with benefits are two friends that have a purely sexual relationship with no strings attached and no commitment.
Btw, if you two like each other and want to date again, then that's great. It doesn't matter what other people think about it. It's your life, and if you want it, do it...
Good luck :)
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