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Thank you very much for the reply. We are planning to get married in 3 years time and what do you mean by'blackmail proof'? I feel so ashamed and i did not know how will he take it? i am so worried and i dont have peace of mind.I am going to lead a life in future and i did not want to hide anything from him.I just dont know how to start..
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"Blackmail Proof" wasn't meant to imply that someone might actually try to blackmail you in the future if you keep secrets; it was just a way of saying that shame should not prevent you from revealing them from someone you intend to marry.
Since you do wish to get married, you will need to tell him about this, or it will continue to eat you up inside and it will poison your relationship. He may not take it well, but I tend to think that since you are obviously remorseful, he will accept it as a matter of you being human, and therefore capable of mistakes.
There is a good side to this, which is that you will now be able to figure out whether he is the sort of person who can accept you warts and all. The time will come, someday in the future, when you will make another error in judgement - I say this not because I don't think you're a good or smart person, but because we ALL slip up sometimes. How he reacts here and now will tell you whether he will be forgiving when that day eventually comes.
Secrets of this type can destroy a marriage. One like it nearly destroyed mine. I am still married to my wife because she is the kind of person who can forgive. If your boyfriend is the kind of man who will make a good husband, he will also be able to forgive.
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