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My boyfriend's mom walked in on us
18/f
We are both 18 and going to college in the fall.
(Just putting it out there.)
So the other day my boyfriend and I were fooling around in his bed. No one was home so we thought it was safe. We got down to just our underwear, although we weren't planning on having sex (we haven't had sex yet anyway). So we were basically making out in our underwear when his mom walks in. My back was to her so I didn't see her but she said, "Oh my god!" and shut the door really fast. We jumped up and got our clothes on real quick. He tried to talk to her but she told him that they'd talk about it later. They haven't really had a chance to talk about it since but I feel awful because I feel like she doesn't trust him. She wouldn't leave him home alone for the weekend and made him give a home phone number when he slept over at a friend's house recently. I am so terribly embarrassed and upset about this because I honestly love him but I'm afraid that his mom hates me now. He and I have talked about having our first time together and we are going to be smart and be safe about it, but neither of us are ready for that quite yet. It was an honest mix up and if we had known his mom was in the house it never would have happened. He's 18 and going to college soon so I feel like his mom should be aware that this kind of stuff happens sometimes. I don't know if she's just shocked or really overwhelmed but I don't want this to affect her opinion of me because I want to be with m boyfriend for a long time. I don't think that we're going to break up anytime soon but I feel like his mom is going to literally hate me now and I am so upset I have no idea what to do. Is there anything that I can do to help this situation? Please help me.
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I can understand how the mother feels. Seeing her "baby" in the "act" can come as quite a shock. Chances are she is also very embarrassed. I would suggest giving her time before you try to say anything. Perhaps she's like most people and just wishes to forget. I doubt anyone would want to keep an image like that in their head, especially about their child(ren). I say, just let your boyfriend take care of talking to her, and treat her the same way you usually would. You could try apologizing, but I'm honestly not sure how she would react to it. I don't know what type of person she is, nor how she treats others. I'm sure she already knows that things like this happen, but I'm also sure it was something she didn't want to "know" about.. If you understand what I mean. I doubt she hates you, she may just feel a little uneasy or even uncomfortable about the whole situation, like you and your boyfriend. If anything, speak with your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and also ensure he speaks with her. Tell him if she says "Later" to say "no, now. We need to get this taken care of and finished" This way it can be dealt with more quickly and hopefully out of minds.
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