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Dating a Military Guy?

Question Posted Wednesday July 11 2012, 2:55 am

So I met this guy in the Canadian Forces. We met randomely, but our personalities clicked instantly. The first night he initiated sex. Then, we spent every night together that week getting to know eachother. He would kiss me, we'd hold hands, he would flirt (still flirts) with me and we'd cuddle - he is so sweet. This is now a week since he's been gone to his next destination and knowing he was in the forces for 3 years straight, there were some personal questions I had wanted to ask, such as: if he had ever been in a serious relationship over that 3 year time period and if so, how did it turn out :s it never seemed like the right time to bring the topic up...

I know this is his full time job, so it'd be a full time dedication if we were to date, let alone get serious. About myself: I am the kind of person who wouldnt't leave him cuz he has a job to attend to; but the kind of person who would support him in any decision he makes. I myself have dated lots of wrong guys who've treated me like crap.. so Lets just say, if I found an amazing guy, let it be a military one, I'd work to make it work out - even if it means moving around to random places, having small contact with him, and seeing him only once every few months. I also know its kind of early in the relationship to maybe even bring up what his dating life has been like.. but since he's been gone, all I can do is think about him. We have texted eachother everyday spite my busy work schedule (I'm in the culinary field) and his busy career; He seems to have an interest in me and I know I'm interested in him.. so I guess my questions are: How could I bring up the dating topic? And how could I ask him out - not necessarily now, but in the future. Curiosity about what he'd even think/say to that last question is killing me at the moment I guess, lol. I already know he's a hard working, dedicated, rough but sweet guy. He kissed me passionately then blew me a kiss off his fingers the last time I saw him (awh). I think if there's an amazing guy just out of my grasp, I should at least try to reach him... he's 23, I'm 20.

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carayotie answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 11:02 am:
Welcome to the "falling for Canadian soldiers" club! Haha. I'm dating one myself. I'd hold off on the serious questions for now just because everything is still new. But I'd be willing to bet that he either hasn't been in a serious relationship during that time (between starting basic 3 yrs ago to finally being posted somewhere to settle, it's difficult to find the time) or he entered the military with a girlfriend and it didn't work because of it. That's generally the way it goes. Spend your time getting to know him and what you guys like from each other. If he likes you he'll def make the first move to initiate a relationship.

I always liked to play "you ask me something and I'll ask you.." game. Especially when they're gone and your limited to texting, sometimes the conversations can get a little dry. So you can try it that way to bring up your questions without seeming to "in his face".

Feel free to email me (address on my page) if you wanna chat!

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