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Brother's Best Friend
I am 17, female. My brother is 20, his friend is 20, almost 21. Let me start off by saying, I don't even know if he asked me out if I would say yes because I don't think I could do that to my brother. So, for starters, me and my brother's friend are close, I call him my second brother because he is over all the time. Sometimes he comes over when my brother isn't home from work yet and he'll watch tv with me until my brother comes home. My aunt, who lives in Maryland, came home to visit and met this friend and winked at me and told me to date him, my mom told my brother's friend (much to my anger) and my mom said he hesitated and then said "i'm to old for her". The last thing that had happened, my brother's girlfriend just had a big party for her 20th birthday. My brother's friend doesn't drink for personal reasons. About a week before the party, the friend was asking me to go to the party so he can hold a sober conversation. I agreed and we hung out and talked a lot at the party. I then realized I had stayed two hours after curfew, so I called my mom and she said it was fine, so I stayed for cake with everyone and my brother asked his friend if he could drive me home and he smiled and said "oh yea, that's no problem at all" so he drove me home from the party around 3 am. As I was getting out of the car, he said "I'll see you on Sunday for the grad party, right? Keep me company?" (it's his cousin's grad party who is also my neighbor so we will both be attending). Today is, I believe, 1 week and 2 days after the party and him driving me home. Things have been weird. He used to always come in the house and say hello to me and ask how I am doing. He has been over five times since the party and hasn't said hello to me once. I'm not sure if I did anything to piss him off so I haven't said anything to him either. What do you think is going on? Do you think he likes me and that' why he got awkward? Thanks!
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He probably DOES like you but is conflicted with his moral feelings. 17 and 21 is way too far apart. I know because I briefly dated a guy that age at 17. The thing was... he was a good guy, and I was mature for my age. But it came down to that we had nothing in common. I still wanted to hang out with friends and do teenager things, but he was looking to finish college and go to clubs and then eventually settle down.. Also him being older put an automatic difference in our authority, because he was older, he was always right, always smarter, always knew more (not really!). He was also looking for a more.. uhm, mature relationship in ways I was not ready for. I ended up giving in and my heart ended up getting broken.
I'm not saying that it would happen to you too. But just be careful. I think you should respect his morals. If he's already admitted he feels you are too young, it will be more confusing for him if you keep going after him. I know it would be hard if you really like him, but it would be better to date someone your own age, in my humble opinion.
I don't think he's pissed. I think he is questioning himself. It would probably be best to stay polite with him and friendly, but not go out with him places alone or act like you want to date him.
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