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Still love him... even after he cheated on me and moved on?
19/f. About four months ago my first love and I broke up after he confessed that he cheated on me. We were not together for a very long amount of time, but the feelings I had for him were both very real and very strong. For a few months after that, I wanted absolutely nothing to do with him. A few weeks ago we had a very long chat, and the memories of the great times we had together came back and washed away any bitterness I might have felt towards him. Since then all I can think about is trying to get back together with him when we are both back at school. I just feel so silly. I know he's moved on and I should too, but I also just want to be with him again. What do I do?
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First of all, let me tell you that what you're feeling is very normal! My first boyfriend lied to me about his sexuality, and cheated on me. I broke up with him, and I was really really angry and disgusted with him. Even though he is a disgusting awful person, I still long for him a lot. You can't cut yourself off completely from someone you once loved so deeply.
This might just be a phase, where you're really lonely, and all the great memories come back, and all you can think of is getting back together. But if you feel you really really want to get back together, and it isn't just a passing phase, approach him with the idea, and see how he reacts. But make sure he's changed and is reliable. For all you know, it might be that he really wants you back, and regrets what he did, but is afraid to approach you... Be careful, and good luck :)
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YOu should reexamine him and you. See if he's changed for the better! If he did it once then there's no second guessing that he wouldn't do it again UNLESS he really loves you. He was your first love, and its very hard to get over the first person you ever give your heart to. Talk it out with him and just be friends. Take it slow first. Good luck Sweetie..
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It's very hard to be mad at someone you feel so strongly about. & you shouldn't feel silly at all, because you can't change your emotions or how you feel toward someone. If I were you, I would talk to him about it. Ask him if he still feels something for you & if he could see you in his future. Also, another thing to think about is if you can trust him again after he cheated on you. I hope this helps & things work out for you! (:
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