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He likes me I like him He's in love with her. DIFFERENT i PROMISE
Hello, I am 17/f He is 22/m. (The other woman is 27 and has two younger children(not his).) Let's call him John. Okay, John is my bestfriend's brother's bestfriend, if you can wrap your mind around that. I don't normally give men the time of day. Until him, obviously. He and my best friend, lets call her louise, grew up together in the same house, she being a year younger then me. He moved here from another state and his bestfriend hooked him up with his other good friend. Lets call her Marie. They dated about 6 months. He went to visit family and found out she was cheating while he was gone. he broke it off. He spent a couple days with my best friend focusing on improving himself. well being as he was hanging out with my bestfriend I hung out as well. This is when I first noticed him on that kind of level. Shortened he did too and my bestfriend started us off. Honestly The first weekend after us three hung out I stayed at his house all weekend. It was amazing. He was such a gentleman never tried anything and stayed on his side of the bed til we fell asleep. I awoke in the middle of the night to his arm around me. We got more comfortable and hung out for the next two weeks and my feelings were growing fast as were his. We would text all day. After work I had to go home as soon as I got off but he would come 20 mins away to literally see me for 5 mins. He would say it didnt matter he just wanted to see me. We would sit in my car and just talk. That 5 mins would turn into an hour and then it was like it was no time at all. Not nearly enough.Then all of a sudden he stopped texting and stop coming around. He had ended up getting back with his ex despite his feelings for me. So I told him we could be friends and he was okay with that. Months went by and I tried constantl to forget everything. everytime I saw them together Id have to walk away because If i didnt i would cry. One day my bestfriend and I caught him alone and he acted almost like it used to be with out the hand holding or stroking my hair, etc. He ended up confiding to my best friend that heand his girl fight constantly and that he made a huge mistake in taking her back. That he made a decision that he didnt think through. That he thinks all the time that we couldve had something real good by now. My bestfriend became the middle man. He ended up getting out to hang out more and more and then one day he woke me up at my bestfriends house. somehow we ended up laying down together like old times and this was a couple weeks after he told me that it was fair to me for him to be stringing me along that he didnt want to hurt me anymore that he was sorry. So i stopped talking to him avoided him, did whatever. Well I guess me not being around he got fed up with which i assume is why he woke me up that day. ever since that day everytime
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I've almost been in this same situation, & let me say that it is not easy at all. First off, it doesn't sound like you are his back-up plan to me at all. If he isn't trying anything with you & he keeps coming back to you then obviously there's something between the two of you. When I was in your shoes, I completely stayed out of contact with the guy. When I knew he was gonna be somewhere I wouldn't go. I told him how I felt & that I wanted to be with him, to let him know where I stood & left it at that! It's hard, but in the long run it's honestly the best thing to do. Being in a different stage of life, as you said they were, is a huge factor. It's just not gonna work between them. Her trying to run him is going to back fire too. Sometimes when a guy is caught up in something & doesn't see that it can be better, they just hang around. You've showed him that it can be better & once you're not there anymore he is going to realize that, like he has to a point, or he wouldn't come back to you.
I guess what I'm saying is tell him where you stand & that you think you all can have something great, but until he makes his mind up on what he for sure wants to do then you can't keep dragging on your feelings. I hope this helps & things work out for you! Good luck (:
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In some form of way I know how you feel, same thing happened with me, but we were all about the same age... Honestly, I think that he's just a bit confused on exactly what he wants at the time, whether he really wants to settle with someone who has kids, or someone that he can start a new chapter with.. But if he truly has feelings for you, if and when he breaks things between him and the mom, he'll be with you. And he seems like a really great guy, a real gentleman. Good luck!
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