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not sure if i did what i wanted
23/f
i had sex w/my bf and i got pregnant i wanted to get pregnant.am now 23 weeks, but starting to think i will not be a very good mother. my family is not like me, nice and protective. i have a mother that has a very mean bf, father that is harasing my brother, brother mean to me.i dont want my child near these people. am afraid that they will be mean to me or my child,am afraid he/she will think im being mean about keeping her away from the rest of my family.
need some advise on what to do. please and thank you.
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Don't judge your parenting skills based on those of your parents. My father and I never had a good relationship and he was a terrible parent. My son and I, now 35, have and always had an excellent relationship. One of my greatest joys in my retirement is when my son takes the time to spend the day with me. It really does not matter what we do just as long as we are together.
Yes it can be said that we are all products of our environment. That does not mean we have to follow what we endured. We can break the cycle through shear will power or through learning. If you are so overly concerned about what your parenting skills may be I suggest you look into parenting class.
The red cross and your local hospital are good places to look for parenting classes. Just remember one thing. If you get so upset that you think you are going to hit or feel like hitting your child; count to 10 first then turn and walk away.
My son confided in me the worst thing I could ever do to him was lecture him. He said my lectures were the worst type of punishment I ever gave to him. He said at the time he wished I had spanked him instead. I never spanked him but I would make him stand in front of me while I lectured him about his wrong doing.
Today he is an honorable young man in a very honorable profession. He saves lives as a paramedic/firefighter and if you haven't guessed by know I am very proud of him.
My father was not a good role model of a parent. I believe I broke from his model and raised my son properly and you can do. Raising a child is both the scariest thing and the best thing you will ever do in life. Being as concerned as you are now tells me you will do fine.
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