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Facing up to mistakes, controlling fear
Fear has destroyed my life. Made so many stupid mistakes. Is there chance to start again.
I moved to the states 12 years ago , i came on a visa waiver and overstayed. My mum has borderline personality disorder, i so badly wanted to get away from her. I met a guy on the internet, i was in love , visited him in the states and overstayed my waiver. He refused to apply for a adjustment of status for me, so i lived here illegally i was too afraid to go back to england, i had nowhere to go.
We were married. He ended up meeting another girl on the internet (this time from thailand) He broke up with me , we stayed married anyway untill he decided to marry the girl from the internet. We divorced. I stayed here anyway and ended up in a severley abusive relationship that lasted 6 years. I was terrified of him , had no self esteem and too scared to leave. I met my current husband 3 years ago. He has been so wonderful , he has helped to build me into a real person . We married sept 2011 and have a 1 month old baby together. I want to be legal, but i dont know if i can. Im still so scared. Is there any help for me?
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I was in a similar situation when I moved to the UK. I was married to an EU citizen, but when we got divorced I had no idea this nullified my visa, and I overstayed for 3 years. I have subsequently applied for and been granted a new visa. I had to go personally to the British High Commission in my country of birth and explain what had happened, and they were sympathetic to my situation.
So I would say that you should apply for your visa anyway, and explain what happened. Or pretend you didn't know. The fact that you are now married to and have a child with a citizen of the states (I assume!) will count in your favour. But you should find out what your status is and attempt to correct it. If they see you are trying, it is much better than if they find out on their own.
You could also apply for a visa or greencard via a solicitor who specialises in immigration, who will be able to advise you on the legal consequences of what you are doing and will also let you know what your options are.
Hope this helps.
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