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i just need to hear your thoughts, just confused about it all
i am 22 and my (ex)boyfriend is 23. my boyfriend and i started dating back in 2010 in Jan. We hit it off great and its been good. in the summer of 2010 we moved into an apartment. It was great and all. but during out relationship i found that he was very much fond of alc and thought he had a drinking problem and all. I confronted him and we went through our major struggles of the drinking phase. but along with his drinking i was smoking maryj pretty much all the time just like with he was with drinking so i was being a hypocrite too. so to sum that up we were really just getting messed up together all the time. anyhow a year went on and this last october we moved out our apartment to save money and we also took a break to just give each-other space. i dont think there was enough space but we ended up being back together in dec. In jan. he went thru some issues and had to go to court and they gave him conditions to not drink at all or do anything. he's done quite an amazing job and hasnt had a problem with not drinking at all. so i think this happend for a good reason and am somewhat relieved and glad. also i went thru something and i am currently not allowed to smoke or drink either but that hasnt been an issue for me. plus it wouldnt be fair to drink and all in front of him. so we have been sober since jan this year. anywayy i thought things were good and it was okay. but just a few days ago he opened up to me about how he loves me as a person and care for me alot but that he just wants to be friends and that ya who knows there could be a future of us getting married but he doesn't know. he said it doesnt have to do with me that hes not interested in other people or dating or sleeping with anyone or anything, but that he wants to leave the physical part out cause he feels it would complicate things. he still wants me to hang out go out do things w.e and still would have me around with his family (cause i got really close to them) anyhow this shocked me cause i just dont see myself with anyone else but him. he is my everything. and it just hurts to hear him say he just wants to be friends. he is the most loyal person i've ever known, he has a hard time letting his feeling out but he would rather me know the truth and would never want or mean to hurt me in anyway. he works very hard and works 40+ hours. I wonder if he just wants to figure out his life and everything and work a bunch. or is he over me? after all that we have been thru it just isnt fair, it sucks.
this is going to be so so hard but i really really wanna try and make it work. my plan is to just not contact him or txt or anything unless he does. do you think there is still a chance for us again? it sucks i know it could be months b4 we are together again but i really hope it will work out in the end.
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There is really only 1 thing that I can say and that thing is It takes time. Give him time to actually think everything through. If he just wants to be friends then that's what he wants and if you care so much about that you should respect that.
Im sorry this answer is sooo short but like I said before just give him time. If you want to talk more just send the question to my inbox and when I am on I will try to answer.
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