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Falling for an online friend.
18/f
I have many good friends on LiveJournal - some people dismiss online friendships, but my online friends know so much about me and vice versa. They are truly some of my closest friends. I've been friends with one girl, K, for a long time now. We initially bonded over being so similar to one another, and we've always got on brilliantly, but as time went on I grew to care for her in a way I care for only a very select few - I empathise with her to the point where if she is upset, I will be, if she's happy, I will be etc. It's rare for me to feel that way about someone.
And recently this has developed into something more - I'm not sure if my feelings for her are sexual (though if it's of any importance, I'm a lesbian-leaning bisexual), but they are romantic. I feel so strongly for her I often don't know what to do with myself, and it is so difficult having feelings for someone and not really being able to do anything about it.
More than that, I feel like she is someone I need to have in my life - I accept that we'll probably never be more than friends (she's straight), but it's rare for me to meet someone I connect to on the level I do her. I'm not one who believes in fate or anything, but I always feel as if I'm 'supposed' to be friends with her, if that makes sense. It just feels right to have her in my life, and I don't want to just know her through a computer screen. We live in the same country, and it wouldn't be too difficult to meet up, but I worry about the etiquette of these things - some people like to keep their online and offline lives very separate.
I guess I just want some support or someone to tell me if they've been in a similar situation. How do you deal with having strong feelings for someone you know online? And how can I strengthen our friendship?
Thank you.
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ahhh. i can't say that i know EXACTLY how you feel. or that i've been through this EXACT situation but i can relate... I'd met this guy almost a year ago from today off a social network, we automatically clicked. and no matter what somebody says online friends are the same as real-life friends. They have a chance of backstabbing just as much and they have a chance of sticking through it with you thick and thin JUST as much. but anyway back to the guy... we liked each other immediately and it was only december that we finally admitted we were in love with each other... so i just actually met him for the first time two weeks ago... it was amazing. we are proudly together for real now. so i understand. it doesnt matter if its online or real life, its still a REAL person on the other side of the computer... well most of the time. hahaha. (dateline reference) and as for her being straight... many girls who are straight turn, with a struggle of course. who knows just hang out with the girl... maybe you'll click like me and him did.
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