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We had sex... and I don't want to get all clingy now. How do I avoid that?
This boy has been wanting me for a long time now for many years He's been trying to sex me . . . 8-10 years Well recently I gave in & Gave it up ... It jus didnt feel right tho . . . Besides us having relations We are very good friends He knows alot abt me as well I know alot abt him . . . I dont want to get attached all crazy like the rest of them so what do I do to subdue the feelings from reaching that point?
And another thing how long after having sex can I take a pregnancy test bc umm I dnt remember him pulling out ??
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There are three things in your question I would like to address.
1) The pull out method of birth control: This is the worst form of birth control. Even if the boy does not ejaculate in you. You are not accounting for the pre-ejaculate or pre-cum which can contain a large amount of sperm. Remember all it takes is one sperm reaching your egg for you to become pregnant. The male does not feel the pre-cum emitting from him during sex. Pre-cum is a lubricant and acid neutralizer which allows the sperm in the ejaculate a healthier environment.
2)Their is an old saying about lending friends money that is probably just as true about having sex with a friend. Once done you generally lose that friend.
3) What to do about this: It is always hard to close the barn door once it has been opened. What you can do if you enjoyed the sex is to try and be friends with benefits. If you feel that is not possible then you need to explain to him that while the sex was good; you do not want to ruin the friendship you have by starting a relationship that has no chance of going anywhere.
That of course is a real ego deflector for him and has as much of a chance of ending your friendship as anything else you could say. Telling him you see him more as a brother is a little better but not much.
Whatever you tell him now that you have had sex and he may see the chance at a relationship that he may want with you is going to hurt him. You need to find the best way you can to let him know you value his friendship and that sex devalues that friendship.
4) Home test kits. Best thing to do is look at the instructions on the back of the test kit or ask the pharmacist.
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