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Porn addiction
I'm M/16. For the last two years I've been lonely & depressed. I've been watching porn almost everyday after school for a long time. I read some articles on porn addiction. They basically described my life & mind. Selfish, always lusting, etc. I truly believe that if I can get rid of this addiction, I'll feel a lot better. But its been so impossible for me to quit during the past two years. I want to so badly but I basically get possessed at night. I'm not the same person anymore either. I used to do well in school but not anymore. I barely have any girls to talk to, I'm always nervous and tense around them, and I just recently ruined it with a girl I liked. Is there still hope for me? I'm hoping that if I stop ASAP, I'll slowly heal, but I'm not too optimistic anymore. I'm so dumb. I've been trying to fix this depression, and look for causes when all along the big problem is right in my face, right in my head. But I cannot get it out, it's killing me. I also feel like I'm too deep in to heal.
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Your porn addition and depression are somewhat mutually exclusive. Your depression may be the reason for your porn addiction. Though your porn addiction has most likely not caused your depression.
Depression does strange things to us, I know as I suffered from depression for many years. Today teenage depression is what parent use to call going through a phase, something we as parents felt children would grow out of. We know better today and have ways to help the teenagers who are suffering from teenage depression
You say your grades have suffered for the past two years. I'm sure your parents have noticed. You and your parents have also probably had discussions about this possibly leading to some type of discipline for poor grades as your answer to their questions were unsatisfactory. This I am positive has only depended your depression.
How do you tell your parents you are suffering from depression and need help? This could be a problem since they are not seeing it. Your 16 capable of seeing a doctor on your own without parental supervision or permission. This isyour right under a Federal Law known as the HIPPA Act.
This being so I suggest you go see you family doctor and tell the doctor how your feeling. Ask to be screened for depression. You may if you wish tell the doctor about your porn addiction and any mastication. Anything you tell the doctor is strictly confidential and cannot be told to your parents without your written permission.
Should the doctor find you are suffering from depression and in need of treatment. Then you and your doctor can have a discussion on just what you want the doctor to inform your parents of. That is all the doctor will be allowed to tell your parents. Which would be something to the effect that you were examined and screened for depression. The results of which are that you are suffering from depression and in need of further treatment and what that recommended treatment is.
That is all the doctor needs to tell your parents. They do not need to know the why of the problem unless you want to tell them. Part of the treatment will be talk therapy with a psychologist. In therapy anything you say is again confidential and again cannot be told to anyone without written permission from you. You need to be totally open about whatever it is that is bothering you and answering the therapists questions if you are going to get at the cause of your depression .
Once you find out the true cause of your depression the porn addiction can be overcome. If for some reason you don't wish to see your own doctor; every city and county offers free mental health screening and treatment. You can go to one of their clinics for help.
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Like drugs, alcohol, tobacco and sex, pornography can become an addiction. I think the best way to beat it is to take it very slowly and give yourself rewards for doing without it for increasinlgly longer periods of time. Make a list of rewards, things you really enjoy doing that are not connected with porn - a walk in the park, chatting with a girl, new clothes, playing football with friends, a night out.
Use the rewards as a 'bribe' to hold you away from the porn for half hour, building up slowly to a whole week without watching any porn at all! A big goal but one you can achieve if you really want to drop this addiction. You may need support so if you can think of a family member or friend who can talk you around from doing it again, that'll help.
I think the porn is what makes you uneasy and nervous when talking to girls. WHen watching porn you're treating girls as sex objects. When you meet them in person, you're unsure how to deal with them anymore. As you try to shake off this addiction, you could also try to find somewhere you could meet girls as friends in a relaxed atmosphere.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Keep in touch if you need further encouragement.
Best wishes x.
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