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how to cope with losing some one
Female 16
One of my school mates is leaving for college. For some reason I really don't want het to go. She is a year older than me, and we also play basketball together. We're not like the best of friends either. I love her for evrything she has done to help me with basketball, but we're just not that close. I feel emotional every time I think about her leaving. I don't know why I feel this way, but if u can tell me or tell me how to cope that would be great
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This girl sounds as if she has put herself out to help you with basketball and it's only natural that you should appreciate and admire her for that. It's always heartwarming to find a person who is willing to help someone with no thought of payback.
When someone you like moves away, it can feel like a bereavement, when someone dies. They are gone, often by choice, as with your friend going to college. I'm sure you wouldn't want her to miss out on the opportunities and choices for her future life that she may find there, but its still hard to accept her going.
There are a few things you can do to maintain a link with her during her absence, especially in these days of improved communications. Telephones, emails. webcams and even visits to her college are all possibilities to explore. For example, you could invite her to a game you're playing in, see how your play is improving, make suggestions for improvements; you could follow a team you both support, go to games together, write blogs on their progress.
Ask her if she wants to keep in touch, if so, you could swap email addresses and go from there. SHe might appreciate another link from home, but you should be prepared for her to be overwhelmed by the busy social life she might find there.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on, keep in touch if you need further help/advice?
Best wishes x.
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