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Am I being silly?
I know you may think this is not a seriuos question,but as I'm a little confused,I'd like to know what you people think about this,well,I like to give my bf presents all the time and not only on special ocassions,I'm practically thinking about what to give him every single day,of course he always says thanks but I know he does not want to hurt my feelings lol:)what do you advicenators think?????:)
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While receiving gifts from time to time is a nice gesture, Constantly giving someone gifts all the time can get quiet annoying after awhile.
In some eyes getting a gift all the time would become a bit much and excessive. Now in my point of my view while I most certainly appreciate gifts on special occasions if someone got me something all the time depending on the person I might start to think they were needy or I might even start to think it's some type of bribe.
If you love your boyfriend then appreciate him in other ways. Cook dinner for him, Go out for walks, Snow tubing etc. You shouldn't have to show that you care about him buy smothering him with gifts. Save that for the special occasions
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I'll throw out a few thoughts to consider. Gifts lose their special quality when they are received continuously. It can also set up a sense of imbalance in relational dynamics, creating a sense of his "owing" you for the gifts. This can feel like an obligation, creating tension in the relationship.
Maybe your gift-giving is honestly driven by selfless love and a desire to bring him joy, but if he does not see the gifts the same way, then it only benefits you. They are not creating reciprocal feelings and may in fact be counterproductive.
Maybe you and he should have a talk about what makes each of you feel loved and makes you feel closer to the other person. It could be a real eye-opener. The best part, though, would be that all the time and energy you are trying to invest in the relationship would be invested in more profitable ways. Or, maybe he is thrilled with the daily gifts and everything is great. An honest discussion where honesty is rewarded with attentive responsiveness rather than punitive emotion will bring clarity and help you be more in tune with each other, which makes for a healthy relationship.
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