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Sore back passage
This is completely embarrassing to ask, but my boyfriend when we have sex seems to like to stick his finger into my butt and now it is EXTREMELY sore and when I use the bathroom it has like a horrible pain that I just can't really describe that almost made me cry. I don't know if it is just sore from him messing with it or if it's something different.
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If you've only had this anal pain since your boyfriend started fingering it, it's reasonable to think he's caused it. Possibly one of his nails has scratched the skin and caused a laceration or irritation. The only way to be sure is to see your doctor for advice. Embarrassing I know, but the only way to get it sorted.
The only way I know of stopping it happening again, if you don't like the experience, is to tell him to stop doing it. There are many ways of enjoying sex but if one partner is being hurt by an action of the other, it's not working.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Good luck x.
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Tell your boyfriend to keep his fingers out of your butt. He is doing so because he is either watching too much or reading too much porn. Most pornography is telling him girls like to have their butts played with and even penetrated by a finger or two. Some girls really do love this others hate it. There is no middle ground on this. The same goes for anal sex.
If you boyfriends fingers are not lubricated and your butt hole is not lubricated this can be painful for you. If you tense up and try to keep his finger from penetrating you it will hurt. Most likely the reason you are sore afterwards.
In order for sex to be enjoyable for both people you need to communicate and be in agreement on what you do sexually. You do not want or like being penetrated in your anus so tell him no to any annul play. He must stop when the word no or stop is used. If he does not regardless of how consenting you were when sex started he is now in the realm of the word RAPE. Because when the word no or stop is used you are withdrawing your consent. This is something you both need to understand.
Mutual consent makes for pleasurable sex.
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