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i'm in love with him
19/f
i am seriously in love with this guy.. We've known each other since august and we go to the same school. we have so much in common and get along great :) we had a thing for a while, but I kinda scared him away when i told him i loved him. I know he likes me because of the things he says and his roommate tells me he talks about me (in the good way). We recently started talking more and more. I just need some advice on what to do... i'm so crazy about him haha i just want him! My main problems are these- 1) whenever we text or talk, its so vague.. Like we don't really know what to say. for example, I said when do you want your sweatshirt back? and he goes- whenever haha. and I said- lets hang out soon. and he goes- okay :). And thats it... its just so vague.. like I want to talk more and in depth. but it seems like whenever I talk about things in depth like what movie we should watch, he just kinda sounds so blah.. how do i get him to talk more with me and more deeply?
another problem makes me very angry is this- when we had a thing, he told me he wanted to kinda move a little faster. so i asked him to be my boyfriend and he said yes. another time we were listening to music and he played the song "take over control" and asked me to take over control. we got intimate and he really liked it.. but i'm just so confused because i thought he wanted to move faster, but when i told him i loved him thats when he got spooked. its just so confusing to me because its like why would you want me to ask you out, and then change your mind?
I've tried talking to him about it but we hardly get to see each other anymore. and I don't want to talk about it over text because he gives me short answers and isn't really honest about his answer. I really just want to talk to him right now and ask him but I don't want to make the same mistake of spooking him away. What do you suggest I do? talk to him about it or lay low and just hang out for a while? I seriously can't stop thinking about him and i'm going nuts because of this issue. I just want to know if he sees a future for us..
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That's how guys are! This is the VERY beginning for you two for him to wear his heart on his sleeve and tell you everything is very uncommon for a guy. As you start dating you'll find out more about each and possibly start a friendship as well. The more you learn and the more you're with a person the more open you become. The reason he is so vague in his answer I'm sure is because he doesn't care what he's doing as long as its with you. My boyfriend and I went to see N"New YearsEve" this weekend and I know for a fatc he didn't want to see the movie. He went with me because he wants to spend time with me no matter what it maybe.
I think you're moving a bit too fast and maybe that's not what he meant by moving fast. Sometimes when we are in the moment we just want everything done quick. Some people forget that courting can take a few years or maybe even a lifetime. There's no need to rush or hurry love because you don't get to experienc what it brings to the table. Don't come on so strong maybe back off a bit and give him some space.
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I think the best way to get closer to a boy is talking about his hobbies, about what he likes... Sometimes tell him compliments about his sence of humor or appearance...Be attentive to all the changes he does, the style of his hair or omething else and say you like it, ashd that it suits him very much.....Try to listen to him aattentively, even if it is not interesting to you, then ask questions concerning the staff he had told you...
Good luck!
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