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dont know what to do
i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and its been a rollercoaster. sometimes were really good other times were really bad. well last week was a good week for us spent a lot of time together and really enjoyed our company. before he went to work this weekend he even told me "i feel closer to you than i ever have and i love you more than ever".. well he works the whole weekend i dont see him we hardly even talk. i didnt sweat it because i figured i would see him on monday. well monday came around and he went and hung out with his friends instead which didnt bother me because i knew he hadnt hung out with his friends. but then he starts acting cold towards me. and hes been acting cold towards me all week. last night we got in a fight and he really upset me. it seemed like he didnt even care and was treating me like complete crap. today we talk and he basically just wants to forget what happened and tells me he doesnt really enjoy doing the things he does with his friends with me. we never do anything together , he never takes me on dates, but he always goes out with his boys. its not fair i wish he could be more romantic and enjoy doing things with me. i dont know what to do.. i dont know if i should just break up with him even though i love him so much and things are good at times.. or stick together and find a way to make things work. any advice?
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You know, everything you just said, I believe can be fixed. Relationships aren't suppose to be perfect (Im sure you know that) but in order to make one work, it takes TWO people; not just one.
Your relationship sounds just like mine with my boyfriend. We've been together for almost a year on the 20th; and our relationship has been a rollercoaster as well.
Once your with someone for longer than 5 months, you begin to exit what some people call the honeymoon stage. Which is perfectly normal. Sure your relationship will seem boring, but if LOVE is really there, than you guys will find a way to make the spark shine.
But its a good thing you didn't get mad when he went to hang out with his friends. Spending time apart will give you guys a breather from each other.
I can't really say much about this statement, "he doesnt really enjoy doing the things he does with his friends with me"
because I don't know what it is exactly he does with his friends, than he can't possible include you in. Than again, he may just want space. Sometimes you can always rely on a guy to read your mind on the things you expect or want from him. If you want him to take you on a date, bring it to his attention.
"You know, we've been together for a while, and I was thinking maybe it would be great if we went out, just the two of us, and just had a good time"
see what he thinks about that, or you can even try to surprise him with something he enjoys to do;
for example: my boyfriend LOVES basketball, before the lockout, I bought him two tickets for our first Christmas together to go see his favorite team; he loved it! I hate basketball, but I put my likings aside to focuse on him.
Do a little something like that; maybe a little sweet card would help, or something just to remind him that you love him; and let him know it wouldn't hurt if he did the same;
sorry its so long! I just wanted to make sure I covered everything!
If you need anything else at all, you can inbox me, or send me an email to xxbbyxitsxyouxx@aol.com
Good Luck!
xoxo*
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BREAK UP AND MAKE UP! That's your story with him. Even though you don't officially break up with him he behaves as if you do. Why are still with him? Love is always a so called OUT for woman to excuse the behavior of a man that doesn't respect them. YOU can be with anyone; why are you allowing yourself to be with someone that doesn't value you. STOP over explaining, and excepting his bad behavior to change over night. Let him go. He's not ready for the type of relationship you need and maybe letting him go will make him realize that he had the DIAMOND all along. That DIAMOND of course would be you.
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