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How do you help my boyfriend show emotions?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for four years.He's used to be very emotional and laughed a lot and got angry when he had too or when it was necessary. About two years ago his grandma passed away we weren't really close as we are now we used to see each other two times a week but now we have fallen more in love and talk to each other about everything. He used to cry every time we argued and i said maybe we should brake up, he used to get mad when his sister took his debit card(they still do that), or when his mom went off and bought stupid crap with his money(still does that).But since then he doesn't show much emotion he does laugh, but he rarely gets mad and its been two years and his family walks all over him takes his money and i say something and they say its just cause i want it all for myself so i stopped saying stuff, but they've gone over board his sister bought a car with his money a boob job and he pays for her insurance and much more things, its like too much but he doesnt get angry! He never cries even if we brake up, but i know he loves me because he's sweeter now to me than ever brings me flowers writes me poems, he talks to me about ever since it really hurt him and he cant show emotions. I even tried showing him this really sad films about people dying and he would feel sad i could feel it but he couldnt cry no matter how hard he tried. It just makes me so mad,how it seems like he's heartless and he doesn't stand to his family! I know he probably needs to go to a therapist, but seriously?! we can't afford that at all and no we dont have insurance. So is there any like natural way to help him fix this? I just don't know what to do! And lately hes been telling me how he finds people killing others fascinating and all the things he likes are like villians who kill not with powers but with knifes. He tells me he finds that fascinating. He's been wanting to have rough sex lately, and he's really rough with me he wants to pretend like he rapes me. I watch a lot of csi and law and order and all of this scares me! It all ties with like the characteristics of someone who might release their anger or emotions in another way. I don't want this to happen at all im so extremely terrified i am gonna let this pass and later regret it, Please help!!!
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woah one thng im thinking is hes saying that stuff to you like a cry out for help.talk to the family do they know how bad he is?he needs help
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Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe u just need to sit him down, pull him aside and tell him everything that is bothering you and then get him to go to a therapist. save a percentage of your money evrytime u get paid or whatever and go to a therapist with him. Don't just send him off all alone though. go with him and make sure he is actaully going. And then try to help him show his family that what they are doing is not acceptable and that they are causing a big problem for you and your boyfriend.
I hope i helped! _Mel
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