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guy in chem
Thanks a million for being here to talk to me and let me vent to you. It made me feel a lot better. Your advice helped me think logically, and I'll take what you said and consider it, including therapy. But keep giving advice because its like your talent or something. but thanksss!
About guy in chem. I want to talk to him but like I feel like hes not interested now. Like in lab or lecture today he didn't say a word to me. And that is stopping me from opening up to him. he only said something by the vending machines but it was nothing. Would telling him hes cute, change anything? im so akward i cant think of anything to ask him..thats not random.
Annashae
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Ok, here's the thing. From everything you've said you haven't engaged him enough to have a clue whether or not he's interested.
The problem here is that even if you made your interest clear you aren't comfy enough to open up and really foster some chemistry if he's not already acting interested in you. Chemistry is give and take, and you don't give enough for him to take away anything significant right now.
You cannot sit and wait for someone else to express interest before opening up a bit. I mean, we aren't talking about holding personal conversations, we're talking about letting go of your social phobia long enough to just hold a decent conversation without being stilted and awkward.
Would flat out telling him he's cute change anything? I don't know. You need to be able to give him something significant to react to before anyone could have the first clue.
Practice on him. Assume that for right now he's not interested and try to get to know him anyway. Take the pressure off and just try to hold conversations. Chat him up every time you're in class, ask him about himself. If you're at a loss for good conversation topics just ask him what he's into and get him to talk about himself, and answer any questions he asks back.
Ask him about school, ask him what he does when he's not being bored in chemistry, ask him about where he came from/grew up, ask him anything that gets an answer that is not "yes" or "no". "What do you like?" instead of "Do you like this?".
Keep things open ended and if he just seems like he's not all that interested, move on and talk to other people. You need to just practice talking to guys you don't know very well so don't feel like you need to wait to be interested in a guy before you ask him about himself and have a conversation.
You need to practice stepping outside your comfort zone and staying out there longer and longer.
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