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I usto be popular now im just losing my friends
Okay im 14 in the 8 th grade. in 6th grade i wasent popular 7th grade i was popoular and now 8th grade im just loseing my friends , i hang around certain people sometimes i just feel like im following them and i dont want it to be that way cause they end up leaving me going to talk to other people one of my friends say i dont know how to include myself in coversations but thats being nosey and none of my business and they arent really talking to me. also i dont wanna be a loner and be just all bye my self loooking like something is wrong, i lost two of my most important bestfriends over a dumb sistuation caus e she yelled at me telling me that my ex boyfriend dosent like me and she told me to the only way we could be friends is if i cry i know its sounds mean but i told her she was following someone so she was mad at me for that , im very sensative by the way i was talking to my friend she says im annoying sometimes even my family tells me that sometime idk what to do i just waant my friends back and thing to go back to they way they usto be. what do i do.
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You find the people that love you no matter what you say or do, and if you can't think of any...just be your self and they will come to you, trust me. In high school, everyone grows up, so you have less drama to look forward to :)
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You are at what is often an awkward and difficult stage of life. You're growing out of your childhood and navigating your way to adulthood. Part of the problem here is that all your friends are in this same awkward and transitional stage as well. There are no magical, quick fix solutions to your problem, but your situation is far from hopeless. Some issues will resolve themselves as you grow older and more experienced in life. For now, though, the wisdom and support of an adult (preferably female) would be very helpful to you. If your mother is unwilling or unable to provide that support, you could talk to a school counselor and ask for help finding a mentor. If you attend a church, there is probably someone there who could mentor you. If you don't know of anyone offhand, you could ask the pastor, youth leader, or other staff to recommend someone. Perhaps you have a favorite aunt, or a neighbor lady who could offer you real counsel and guidance.
Your friend is probably right in that you don't know how to include yourself in conversations. The uncertainty and lack of confidence you feel is probably evident to others and it makes them feel uncomfortable. This is a very common dynamic in relationships. Unfortunately, fellow 14-year-olds are better at pointing out problems than offering solutions. Saying that you are annoying and to stop being annoying isn't very helpful.
Excuse me a minute, my dog is telling me I need to check on supper. She is very concerned about the meat being overcooked. Be right back.
Okay, I'm back. The meat is fine. I have a few more minutes before Fluffbutt starts bugging me to start eating so she can have her tidbits. One of the things that will help is for you to learn to be comfortable with yourself. It's okay to be who you are, including the awkward parts. You have good things to bring to relationships and you are worth knowing, hanging out with, and caring about. Your relational "techniques" need some work, which is why I recommend a mentor. They will help you with your relational skills and give you emotional support while you work on those skills.
I am a 51 year old male somewhere off in cyberspace, so I can't really offer you the support a mentor could. I was 14 myself once, and I have a daughter that was 14 not so many years ago, so I empathise with your situation. If I can be of any further help to you, stop by my channel and say hi. And now, just as I predicted, Fluffbutt is demanding that I pay attention to supper. Gotta go.
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ok 1 i think they r right change yur attitude use the words like i am sry they are probably right /
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