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If it’s not the lack of romance than what is it? You’ve been right about everything else. I want you to tell me what you think the hole in me is.
Maybe I do feel lonely sometimes or alone but everyone does at times. I do have friends not a lot but I do have some. I know when people like my company and when they don’t, usually. You’re making me think I’m more depressed or crazy than I am. Or am I in some sort of denial. I thought everybody acts like I am acting now when their hurt? I’m more worried about myself now than I was before. I don’t think of myself as complete shit nor do I think of myself as some goddess. I don’t hate myself, but you’re making me feel like I do.
I’m sorry to hear what you had to go through. We sound similar about some things. And I hope your able to get the therapy if that’s what you want. I do think I need therapy as well, and I guess I want it too, but I can’t. My family/parents…
what about a college counsler/teacher?
of course I want to be happy, but happiness is never forever. Every happiness comes a sadness. It’s an equal ratio. It’s the way life works, unfortunately. We all wish for happiness forever because it feels so damn good to be happy but that’s impossible. And you said im wrong about a relationship doesn’t ALWAYS give happiness. I know that’s true but seriously before you were in your relationship with your wife you can’t tell me the amount of happiness she gave you didn’t outweigh the amount of sadness in your life?
Oh and I took your advice. I didn’t tell the kid I think he has a cute smile. But I did go up to him and have a casual convo and I couldn’t even look at him.. that’s how shy I am but besides that I think the convo went okay. He was complaining how calc is a bitch. I would of offered to help but im only at pre calc. .. am I doing alright so far? And you’re a guy so tell me what not and what I can do? Cause I’m not good with this stuff at all.
Annashae
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It's hard to describe, and I don't want you freaking out and feeling like there's something broken within you if there isn't, but people don't talk about putting up a front and wishing the things you wish without some serious lacks in self affection and self respect which shouldn't be there.
I suggested it repeatedly because I'm not a professional and if you really are as messed up inside as you sound I wouldn't want you just sitting there hoping it fixes itself or being unaware that there's something wrong that could be fixed, but I said repeatedly it's professional territory. The point is that I don't know, and it sounds like you need to at least speak to someone who is more educated because they might well know the things I don't and would be able to help you with them in ways I can't.
College is a good idea, they might have resources to help. The reason I brought it up isn't because you need it like someone with a bad appendix needs surgery, it's because you seemed to be resistant to the idea and the truth is that most people could use a little therapy now and again, it's not just for people who are so hopelessly fucked they can't find a grain of happiness in a year of their life.
It's a suggestion I want you to take under advisement and think about, not just instantly dismiss because it's not a good fit for your circumstances right now. That's all.
On the guy, just keep talking to him and smiling at him. Get yourself to make eye contact. You really need to practice eye contact, that's what's going to get people's attention. Make eye contact, smile, and chat him up about calculus some more or anything else. Ask him a few non school related questions, make it clear you don't just want to chat about school with him.
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