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You answered my previous question
Hey sorry to bother you again, youve answered questions about my ex bf that I dated for 2 years. Well now hes tagged in all these pictures with this girl and hes like laying in bed witjout a shirt. I just feel horrible and replaced. I have guys that pay attention to me but I still cant stop thinking about.him. :/ I feel pathetic and like im never gonna find someone that I love as much as him. I cant get over it. I wasnt happy in the relationship but I feel worse out of it :( o really thought hed come back one day. I guess im just looking foranything cause right now I just really really want this pain to end :/ I really really wish that I was more important to him and that hed try to win me back. I feel like im so easily replaced :/ I dont want to be sad anymoree.
And to make things worse, this guy thats a real genuine guy wants to come visit me. I want like something casual but I dont want to make myself worse..he got out of a long relationahip a few months ago and he really is an amazing guy but I cant stop thinking about my ex. I really want him to try hard to win me back :( please help I feel horrible
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'm glad you wrote me, i've been thinking about how you're doing since i answered your last question.
ok, first of all this guy is a total asshole!! he's playing with your head soooo bad. i can almost guarantee you that he tagged those pictures (or had someone tag him) just so you would see them and to give you the impression "fine, you want to break it off with me?! i'll show you how easily you can be replaced!" he has not replaced you. he's trying to make you feel like crap and unfortunately its working. he is obviously extremely insecure. the fact that he treated you like you were so disposable when you were together and then says to you "well maybe we can be together in like a year" speaks volumes about how insecure he is. he loved the fact that he always knew you would text him and chase him especially if he ignored you. it made him feel important. then you finally work up the nerve to dump this loser and he agrees with everything you say (because he can't believe you're standing up for yourself) and says that maybe you guys can be together in a year, like he's doing you a favor?! ugh this guy is a total tool its making me angry, haha. do not comment on those pictures on facebook!! don't text him about them, don't private message him, don't say a word! it will make him crazy!! what the hell kind of guy is in a relationship with a girl for 2 years and 2-3 days after the relationship ends he posts pictures of him hanging out with some other girl?? a total selfish asshole that doesn't deserve you! if this kid cared about your feelings at all (besides trying to make you regret breaking up w/ him) he would never post pictures like that so soon after breaking up especially knowing how fragile you are. he did not replace you he's just trying to make you think he did. you are not replaceable!!
i was in a very long relationship with a guy for 5 years and i let him treat me like total crap. when we broke up i was a mess, even though i broke up with him. he went out and was having all kinds of fun and i was at home crying in my bed. but come to find out (after not talking for years) he was totally devastated over our break up and that was his way of coping, acting like i meant nothing to him. he always said that he went out so much because he couldn't stand to be by himself because all he would do would think of me. i never got back together with this guy just so you know.
as far as this other guy that wants to take you out, he's knows what its like to just be getting out of a long term relationship so don't be afraid to say to him "i'm still feeling unsteady and hurt by my last relationship so i'm not looking for anything serious right now but would love to get to know you better and hang out a bit" be completely honest with him so that there are no expectations. he will understand.
there is no easy way to get over a break up especially when your ex is acting like such a jerk. this guy does not deserve you and is doing anything and everything to continue hurting you. that is not love. you sound like such a sweet girl and there are amazing guys out there that deserve such a devoted girl like you and you deserve someone that appreciates you. you will get over this in time and sooner or later you will think "what the hell was i thinking wasting so much time on that loser?!". i have been in your shoes and i'm telling you that day will come. i know its going to be hard but you should unfriend your ex on facebook or your going to be stalking his page constantly and he's going to know that so he's going to continue to try to hurt you. please take my advice. i really feel for you and i really mean it when i say you can write to me whenever you want. you're not "bothering" me. i know how it feels to not be able to talk to your friends about this guys because they're fed up and would probably be upset to know your still hungup on him. please keep me posted <3
I didn't know your question and my answer would show up on my column (since it was in my inbox) if you want to talk so no one can see our convos please email me: kelly12112001@gmail.com
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