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Answer Please Need Advice/Help!!!
I'm 15 Years Old And I Have A Boyfriend Who's 17, He'll Be 18 In December. He Has No Parents Beside His Dad Being In Jail, And His Guardians Being His Grandparents. So If That Helps Any. We Had Unprotected Sex, And Yes Here's Where The Judgement Comes In, Well Anyway I'm 2 Weeks Pregnant, And My Parents Have A Big Issue With Me And My Boyfriend, About A Month Ago (Or Longer) My Parents Made Me Have An Abortion... Hard Time For Me. Yes, I Know What The Hell Am I Doing Having Sex Again. We Seriously Need Advice, Not Lectures. My Dad Has Been Calling Me An Asshole, A Little Bitch, Ugly Things Like That He Acts Like I'm
Not His Child Anymore, Which Doesn't Hurt Me Cause He's Been Telling Me That My Whole Life But It's Reached The Point Where It's Gone Far Enough And I've Had It Already. Also All He Does Is Go And Tell My Mom All This Crap That I'm Saying All That Stuff, And All She Can Do Is Believe Him And When I Try To Go Talk To Her She Never Listens, All She Can Do Is Take His Side Cause She Has No Where To Go, She Has No Family Here In Town Or Close By. She Picks Side To Have A Place To Live. Which I Think Is So Wrong, They've Always Judged My Boyfriend And Have Never Given Him A Chance At All. Especially With A Baby On The Way And Him
Being A Daddy All They Can Think About Is Putting Him In Jail, Suing His Family, Getting Money Out Of It, Or Killing The Baby Inside Me; That Me And Him Want! But No One Wants To Understand That And Is There Anyway Me And Boyfriend Can Get Help And I Can Get Away From My Parents, Or Do Something So I Can Be Happy With Him And Our Baby For Once. Please Give Me Advice That's True And Helpful We Can Use All The Help We Can Get, It Would Be Nice To Know Can We Get Married Or Something Like That; We Honestly Plan To Stay By Each No Matter What, We're Not Trying To Do All These Things For The Wrong Reasons; My Boyfriend Is Honestly Trying All He Can To Get Me A Better Life, A Happier Life It's What I Want More Than Anything, A Happy Life With Him. Please Advice/Help Anything But Lectures. Thank You!
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There are a lot of things I could lecture you on but I won't since you asked that we not lecture you. You have asked for legal advise that most if not all of us are not qualified to give. I will give you some suggestions to check with a lawyer which you should be able to do through legal aid.
One thing I do know is your mother can not force you to have an abortion. I'm very surprised one was even performed if the doctors knew it was against your will. Being over 14 years of age you have legal medical privacy for matters such as pregnancy. This means neither mom or dad can have any say in you medical treatment during your pregnancy except in the case of life or death for you.
Now some states consider a pregnant underage women to be emancipated or that she can ask for emancipation. This is where legal advise is needed. Being just 15 years old the courts may not give you emancipation choosing instead to make you a ward of the court. In doing so they could also possibly make your unborn child a ward of the court until you are old enough to properly care for it.
Your boyfriend, when he turns 18, could request custody of the child. He would have to meet standards set by the court to gain custody. His parents could also ask for guardianship until he could take custody.
As for putting your boyfriend in jail; here again it depends on the laws off your state. The fact that you are both minors works in his favor as it takes the steam out of the statutory rape charge. As for suing his family, sure anyone can sue anyone else. The best I think your parents can earn in court award is child support from his parent until your boyfriend is of legal age. Generally that would be 18 years of age. At that point your BF would be legally responsible for any child support the courts would award.
Your home life does not sound all that conducive to a good pregnancy for you or a place for you to raise their grandchild. I suggest you contact legal aid and find out what your legal options actually are.
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