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What was she thinking when she turned down same sex advances but didn't stop talking to me?
basically I'm a girl that liked a girl.
She told me that she wondered for EVER if she was straight or not, but after hooking up with a few guys she just knew. Personally I think that she'd have to hook up with a girl to know, but I guess not.
First she said she didn't want to be my friend, because it was weird that I liked her.
But then all of a sudden she wanted to be my friend, and she was extremely nice to me.
Then she stopped talking to me because she thought I was confused.
That's basically it, I know a lot of people don't like too many details.
Then again, if there aren't enough details, people don't know what I'm talking about.
Oh well.
I've heard different opinions from my friends about it. I've heard that maybe she was confused herself, and didn't know what to do in that situation.
I've heard that maybe she was a little attracted to me, otherwise she would've just said "no" and never talked to me again.
Both make sense to me. Maybe she just felt sorry for me. But she did say that a lot of her friends told her to tell me to 'fuck off' but she didn't.
Like I said she was really nice to me at one point.
I just don't know why.
Thoughts?
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There is a chance she's not attracted to you or she is but can't let her friends know she is. Her close friends may be making fun of her for wanting to" switch" sides too. If you really want to see how she feels, get her alone and see if she wants to go out on a few friend dates. Try inviting her to a sleepover. When it gets late, play a little truth or dare and make it a little risky. If she says no, she's not into you but if she agrees, you can go for more. I hope this helps and good luck.
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You never really stated that she was bi or lesbian or not, but I'll just assume that "she just knew... that she was a lesbian"
I don't think she would have to hook up with a girl to know, because for me it was more of a realization kind of deal than an experimental thing.
I also don't know your ages or if you're in middle school or high school, but girls around that age are "curious". Well, so are women in college. lol
I could believe her that she thought it was weird to be your friend. My friend who I've known for a while confessed to me that he liked me, and being the person I am, I turned him down because I did not have that kind of attraction for him, and it was weird being his friend after that, but we kept talking until it got better. No big deal. She might be trying to be your friend. If she turned down your advances then the simple answer would be , she doesn't like you. And if she didn't stop talking to you then another simple answer would be, she just wants to be friends.
I really don't know the details so its hard for me to give you any advice here.
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