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Friendship, love life and betrayal
How do I deal with a break up, I dont know if hes forgotten me I dont want to forget him because our break u wasn't abotu soemthing bad but I always text him and he responds as if he doesn't want to talk to me and i really dont know what to do . And I am also loosing two of my closest friends one of them is named Jenny she didn't like my boyfriend and they had gotten in an arguement and put me in the middle. Now she thinks I am talking smack about her and saying she was the reason why we had broken up but that is a stupid rumor . My other friend is named Alfredo he is upset withe me because he says I have betraded him I did I do admit I did and he has every right to be upset but I just want him back .
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Dear Friendship, love life and betrayal,
I can't even imagine dealing with all 3 things at the same time. That's alot!!!!!!!
OK so your breakup: no he didn't forget you. I know it feels that way cause he's ignoring you and giving you the cold shoulder, but guys deal with break ups differently that girls. And honestly the texting might be making things worse. I went through a rough breakup one time and I couldn't go a day with out calling him or texting him and he would ignore me and it felt horrible cause we were together for 5 years. I really thought like he moved on, forgot me or something but later on I found through he's friend that he was taking the breakup really bad and didn't want to hear from me. I don't know the reason of the break up but it looks like some space might work in your favor. Don't texted him and see what happens, I can almost guarantee he will calling you sooner or later.
Ok now with Jenny, there's 2 things you can do, you can either ask her to sit with you face to face to put the rumors to rest or you can write her a letter (if she wont talk to you). It's better to meet face to face so that it's just the 2 of you with out any other outside influences and she can see you are being sincere. If she is a true friend patching things up shouldn't be hard. But what's important is that you make the move of reaching out to end that drama.
And with Alfredo, this might be you toughest path. Even tougher than the breakup cause you know you messed up here. Betrayal is one of the worst if not THE worst thing you can do. But it doesn't mean you can't recover from it. Your gonna have to give him time for it to kinda "sink in." This is a person you should write a heart filled apology letter too, personally hand it to him and tell him when he is ready you would like to talk. Tell him how sorry you are, and how much you value you friendship and that you understand he needs he's space and that you want him to give you another chance and a fresh start in a friendship.
Good Luck with everything and take it easy :)
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I have been in the same situation. I lost my boyfriend and a friend out of it.
You two broke up for a reason and like everyone has told me, "never date an ex." You should never date your ex, because you broke up for a reason and if you go back its not going to be the same. I wouldn't text him if i were you because then they become even more irritated and you become more desperate looking. You now lost your boyfriend and I am sure you have been friends with your friend Jenny a lot longer, so try and fix things with her. You will have better luck if you try fixing things with her and move on from you recent ex. The faster move on the happier you will find yourself with a new life of being single. (:
Good luck(:
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