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Scared to tell a girl how I feel
hi, i am a 15/f n i like this gurl that goes 2 my school. i want 2 tell her how i feel but im not sure how 2 tell her. i rlly want her 2 know that i got feelings for her without her laughing n my face, ignoring me or telling everybody my secret. what should i do about this situation.
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Hey! I understand how you feel, it's frustrating enough to tell others how you feel and it just gets more difficult because some people are not tolerant of homosexuality. But I just wanted to let you know that telling ANYONE you like is taking a risk, a risk of losing their friendship, not being as close friends [however still remaining friends], etc. I'm guessing you're not out yet since you mentioned that you were afraid of her telling everyone your secret, as in IF you do come out to her, and she rejects you then she'll tell someone about it. I don't think she's going to tell EVERYONE. Usually gossips and rumors start like the domino effect, one person tells another person [who is supposedly trustworthy], then they tell another person and so on.
Before you do or say anything to her, do you know anything about her sexuality? Has she behaved in anyway that would make you think she likes you or would hint to you that she's a lesbian or bisexual? If you haven't asked yourself that then I suggest just observing her [don't stalk her though lol jk] to see if she hints any signs of being attracted to females also. The thing with homosexuality is that you just have to be STRONG because the truth is... we live in a heterosexual society and there are a lot of people who don't tolerate it. [There are also a lot of people who do, so don't let that get your hopes down.]
Have you asked her about how she feels towards homosexuals? Or even discussed a topic of that sort? If not then you should. If she's okay with them then she might not ignore you after confessing to her.
I think your main situation here is the fear of being rejected, and that's EVERYONE's issue. But please, if you get rejected it's OKAY. At least you can move on and not wonder what if right?
Anyway, if you have anymore questions feel free to inbox me. I don't know if you're bi or lesbian but I'm a lesbian, but I'm 4 years older than you so I have a bit more experience.
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