|
Feeling Insecure
(I'm 20 and he's 21 will be 22 in July, and he just got his associates degree in accounting and will be going to school for his bachelors this fall.)
I've recently started dating this guy. He's a really great person and I really enjoy spending time with him, however he does live in another state so in a way we are kind of long distance.
I started talking to him in November, we met on a dating site. At first I thought he was kind of weird, and I dated another guy which didn't last long. When that guy and I broke up, I asked him a question about my relationship with that guy to see if he thought that I had a chance of getting back with him. We started talking a lot after that, that was back in January.
We finally met in March, a meeting that went over really well. I've ended up getting hurt in break ups previously, I always seemed to be the one to be getting dumped by guys who didn't want to commit to me for whatever reason. It wasn't that they didn't like me, they just decided to emotionally withdraw themselves from me. He convinced me that he thought that I was beautiful and that he would never cheat on me, or doing anything to hurt me purposely. He said that he couldn't guarantee that we'd be together forever but that he wouldn't hurt me.
One thing that I noticed before this all happened is that they stopped calling me. So, when my boyfriend doesn't call me every night I get insecure. I've told him this in the past however sometimes he doesn't call me. Is this something that I should get upset over? Should I reconsider this relationship? A part of me really doesn't and I know that I would hurt myself, he's really supportive and I know that he really cares for me. I care for him and want to be supportive of him, it just bugs me that he doesn't take the time to call me every single night. When he doesn't call me I get so worried that he's going to break up with me, or that we're going to grow apart from not talking to each other.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Dear "Feeling Insecure"
I am so sorry to hear that you've been hurt in the past by men, but let's just get this out of the way: You simply cannot hold what your ex's did to you against your current boyfriend because in reality; the relationship won't last much longer if you continue this behavior.
It's hard, it's so hard to believe that the next guy that you let inside your heart won't hurt you but it's always key to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
Now let's talk about this phone call miss-hap your having. Long distance relationships can be tough, that one phone call can be the difference between a good nights sleep or a frantic series of how your currently feeling; insecure. With that said, you shouldn't base rather or not you want to be with someone if they don't have the time to call you EVERY single night.
My advice to you would be to give this guy a chance. Your boyfriend has an associates degree in accounting and is going for his bachelors. He has to study and there maybe be other factors going on that day that he just can't make the time to call you and you may not want to hear it but; if he doesn't call you and you feel that you absolutely need to talk to him that night; pick up the phone and call him.
hoping you'll shake the past away,
Braylen
]
More Questions: |