My ex slapped me across the face in front of everyone
Question Posted Thursday May 12 2011, 8:58 pm
My Ex and I fight ALLLL the time, even though we've been apart for a year now. While we were dating he treated me horribly... he would yell and curse me out, and force me into sexual stuff, like physically force. and we also fought all the time. Now, it's gotten to be just stupid. He only causes drama for me and I can't stand it... I try to avoid hanging out with him or texting him or any of that stuff. But even when I do that he still manages to cause problems. His current girlfriend has been spreading all kinds of stuff about me like that I offered to hook up with him and stuff a week ago when I absoultely did not... She's angry because he keeps calling her my name... and she thinks he's like cheating on her with me. And we don't even talk to eachother! Except for in studyhall. I have this dumb teacher that will not let me switch seats with anyone (I'm assigned next to a seat with my ex) even though the teacher is like never in the room! And since school is almost over, it's too late to switch classes. Last week in class my ex was trying to get me to argue with him cause he loves to start fights and I wasn't responding to him and he slapped me... the teacher wasn't around and I was too scared to say anything when he came back in. He didn't hit me incredibly hard but it really hurt and it was across the face. My boyfriend now wants to beat the shit of this kid... he has literally done nothing but cause problems for me. And it's almost summber so it would do no good to talk to the school because I know he's still going to be a problem this summer. Can anybody give me any advice???
Additional info, added Thursday May 12 2011, 10:53 pm: I know all of this stuff is wrong and that I could do all of these legal actions for it but I really just need someone to help me with the like... emotional part of all of it. It's really hard to find anyone to talk to about it that understands it. Just anyone who can help me deeeeal with it??. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Counciler answered Friday May 13 2011, 9:28 pm: If you're a minor, you need to involve your parents and school authorities in this matter immediately. This is NOT something that is acceptable!
If you are an adult, you need to involve the police immediately. Rape and assault are serious crimes, and by letting it go unanswered.. you're showing him that it's acceptable to do this when it most certainly isn't.
Whatever the case, you need to understand that by not dealing with this firmly and quickly, you're encouraging more. Whether he's a child or adult, he needs to be shown the authorities as soon as possible.
If he isn't stopped, someone (you, or the next girl to face his anger) could be seriously hurt, or worse.
VoiceofReason answered Thursday May 12 2011, 10:49 pm: The slap was assault and you can have him criminally prosecuted for it. There are witnesses. You can also have a restraining order filed against him. He is obviously a sociopath and you need to avoid him. He also committed a rape against you in one of the earlier incidents, so that makes it especially incumbent upon you to go to the police about this latest incident. [ VoiceofReason's advice column | Ask VoiceofReason A Question ]
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