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what could be wrong with my husband?
okay. I've been reading your advice. It's very amusing because your so blunt when most people are not. So i need an honest answer from a man. I've been married to my husband for 2 years and we been together for a total of 4 years. We have had hard times like everyone else, but all around we've always had a pretty good sex life and always pretty affectionate with each other. As for the communication, he's always had a problem with expressing himself. I on the other hand, have no problem at all telling him how i feel. I'm very blunt and honest. He just bites his tongue more i think. Anyway he changed jobs a couple months ago. He went from working days to nights and it messed his schedule up completely which i understand. But it's like NOTHING has went back to normal yet. We argue constantly, we don't have sex as much as we used to and i LOVE sex!!!! Most married men are begging for it, like a dog wanting a freaking bone, but not him. I'm the one that's always bringing it up and he says he has more important things to worry about than sex. We have 2 kids together so our lives are hectic, but i feel like we should STILL make time to "keep it alive" you know? He says i "bitch" too much, and i say he doesn't give me what i need enough. Like .. affection, sex, communication, attention. Really thats all i want. But it's almost like he wont do it because he KNOWS i want him to! We just dont get along anymore and me being "sexually frustrated" doesn't help anything. Like i said before, ALL of this started happening when he started this new job. He has changed since he's been working night shift, like completely changed. I just dont know what to do anymore. I feel like everything is falling apart.
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right now, I'm thinking its job stress. I've done the night/day switch several times before, and it sucks. its one of those things that your body naturally rebels against. imagine waking up every day feeling like garbage, eating dinner when its your breakfast time... still, thats no excuse. What does he do on the night shift? I assume he doesn't tell you much, but something may be stressing him out on the job. I suggest you get somebody to watch the kids, and you guys have some alone time. whether its having a nice breakfast, going out to a park, it just needs to be something in which you two have some peace and quiet for an hour or two and can work out the issue. absolutely no tv, cell phones, computers, or any other BS distractions. He needs to understand that his family is his cheerleading squad, not an adversary. and if he bitches about missing the game, tell him you're taping it or something.
good luck
-Gunner
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factory job making bmw car seats? thats pretty badass. I love those cars. but assembly line work sucks in the first place, and doing repetitive work in the middle of the night has got to be horrible. add a jerk boss to the mix...
well, best of luck to you both.
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