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My Life...
Well, i was born, oldest of four kids. first off my mother had a divorce when i was born, my 13 yeaer old sister, and she was pregnant with my now 6 year old sister. she ran away from california to montana to try a new life. She married a man named Jesse. that man abused me, and hated me, never had a job, and forced us to move 14 different places during my age of 9-12. my mom had a kid with him and he is now 3. they got a divorce and out of spite Jesse called immigration on my mother. she was put into a detention center, and within two days of that my father in Cali came and took me and my 13 year old sister, my two younger sibs went with Jesse. my mom will be deported on June 23rd. i was forced to California for 4 months, and i was lonely, never made a single friend since all the highschool kids (im 16 by the way) did drugs or alcohol. so i didnt fit in. anyhow, through all this i had a girlfriend, she has been amazing. she was the only "Silver Lining" in my life. And i recently came back to montana, for spring break and i decided to stay. my mom got released from the detention center and so i decided to stay with my friend Ryan, (16 years old too) anyway, his parents took me in like their own child, this made my dad very angry and he disowned me. he wont answer his phone, he wont call me, he said he's dissconnecting my phone, and he said he's done with me and trying to help me. so he's been gone for like 2 weeks... and i had to go to court to fight for the right to see my two younger siblings. The attorney told me to find people willing to go to the cort session as people supporting my mom. so i called my girlfriends parents (i always got along with them and they were always nice to me) so they went to the court. it was there that they both found out just how shitty my life has been so far. after finding this all out in court, they decided my life was "to stressful for their daughter" so they took her out of school, took away her phone, took away her laptop, and any means of contact with me. (this happened the day before yesterday) they refuse to let me see her, and refuse to let me talk to her. This hurts me. she has been there for me through everything, all my shitty life experiences, all of it. she's been with me (2 years) i can't live without her. i simply can not go on. i know that sounds ridiculous seeing as how i am so young. but believe me. i know she is "the one" i've dated girls before and thought i liked them, but compared to this one. they are nothing. she is the love of my life and the one i cnt let go. every time im around her, i feel like my life has meaning and purpose. i feel like i want to become a better person. i just cant live without her. and i know she needs me too. i dont know what to do... someone... please help me...
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well dude, seeing as how you're awesome at rolling with the punches, I'd suggest rolling with this one as well. If she's really "the one", then she'll wait out her parent's bullshit(yes, they will eventually calm down and let her have her phone back) and call you. if she cares about you as much as you do her, then you're set. just let things settle down, and have faith that everything will come out okay in the end.
good luck, kid.
-Gunner
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My goodness, you have a lot going on for your age.
I am sorry for all you have been through, and I hope you realize that this isn't your fault. None of it.
You are obviously a very intelligent person, so I am hoping you can see the truth of what I am about to say even though you are hurting so badly.
Your girlfriend's parents don't hate you. Not at all. They are simply scared for their daughter.
If she was your daughter, and you found out that there was a lot of badness in her boyfriend's family, wouldn't you be afraid that all that drama and badness would spill over and ruin her life? Of course you would!
Is the situation impossible? Not at all. Here is how you fix it:
Her parents expect you to turn out just like your parents, and they are right to expect that, since that is what USUALLY happens. So what do you do?
Now is the time that you take charge of yourself and realize that you don't have to be someone else. You get to CHOOSE how you respond to this situation. If you handle this in a responsible manner, her parents will see that.
Do you love this girl? I mean really, not this puppy love garbage people are always on about, I mean real, sincere, spend the rest of your life with someone... love?
If so, then you have a little time to get yourself together and on track before you become an adult. If she feels the same way about you, then in less than two years, you will be adults and able to make your own call on seeing each other.
Is it going to be that long before you get to talk to her? Probably not. My suggestion is to write her parents a letter. Tell them that you will do whatever it takes to be a part of their daughter's life.
Ask them not to judge you by your parents actions. Explain that you are determined to be the man that they want to have in their daughter's life, and then ask them to talk with you about this.
If they have a heart at all, then you should be able to see her again, though maybe not as much as you would like, while you prove to them that you are a stable person who isn't going to freak out and run off like they are afraid from what your mother did.
If you need anything else, please write me.
DN.
P.S. I am glad you got to stay in Montana. Beautiful place to re-build your life. I used to live there once upon a time.
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