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Will she ever date me?
Okay, so it's a long story and I know I've posted on here before. If you've seen any posts about a girl named Nicole and her (now ex) named Kelly, they're by me.
Basically a mutual friend introduced me and Nicole about five months back and we immediately were very close...like...I've never been so infatuated with someone and she's never really looked at anyone other than her (at the time) girlfriend Kelly whom she'd been dating almost three years. We got really close, both emotionaly and physically over the months before it actually led to her cheating on Kelly...quite a few times.
She wasn't playing Kelly, I mean I've seen this girl cry herself to sleep over what she was doing to Kelly. It's not like she was okay with it, and niether was I. But...things got rough over New Years and they broke up and got back together and broke up and got back together a zillion and a half times. But now they're seperated for good it seems like, at least Nicole's not considering a relationship with Kelly anymore I mean.
A few months back it got really ugly with both me and Kelly hounding her about picking one of us, and she'd tell me all the time she prefered me over Kelly (and would still pick Kelly). Now I don't know what to think...Because we're alot closer but now she talks to me differently. She's not as sweet, but she's definately more open to me. Like, she'd never swear before but now she does in casual conversation with me, that sort of thing. It's probably just her getting used to me but...I"m not sure.
And now she's stuck between choosing me or just being friends. I don't know. She says she "still doesn't think of me as a friend" and then she'd turn it around and be like "right now I don't know what I want so we should be friends." And I don't really understand anymore. I really care about her, like you don't even understand. I don't trust people, and I certainly wouldn't stick through all this bullshit with anyone else, but I have...and I still don't understand why.
But I was wondering what you think I should do. Monday is Valentine's day and I was thinking that if she doesn't make a choice by then, then it was over. Like...even if she doesn't pick me, I still want a final choice. And I've told her that before. I just can't be stuck in the middle anymore because it's killing me. And it's selfish for me to want to make her pick, but I need to for my sanity. She's not going to be happy with me harassing her every day for the rest of our senior year. I just want an answer. And I know you guys are just going to say 'talk to her' but I have...and nothing ever gets solved. Do you think I should just wait it out or just give it till Valentine's day. I mean, she knows how much Valentine's Day means to me...and I've said before that I don't want to continue being her little 'toy' and hoping for something impossible to happen on a day like Valentine's day... I don't know. I'm so confused. What should I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You know what you should do? Be done with this girl. You could be out finding love, not waiting for it to come around. As much as she says she loves you, she doesn't or she wouldn't make you keep waiting. You need to tell her how you feel. Sit down with her and talk. Nothing is really harder than that but... You need to be happy.
I've been through it, it's rough. But the outcome is great. Good luck!
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