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Got Any Advice?
Real sorry if this is in the wrong category or whatnot.
14/F/Bi
Ok here goes sorry if its too long.
I was on a website and I got talking to this girl she can be friend A. We got chatting about things we where interested in and she asked me if she could add me on msn/ facebook, I agreed (i know seems a bit shady) I went on webcam to her and she was legit (or whatever) Anyway to the point, she introduced me to a few of her friends over facebook and one of them stuck out, lets call her friend B, after the first two messages on the chat she wanted to add me so a agreed, everything was going smoothly and I was actually making friends. I told them I would come over to where they lived next year (this was last year this part) and friend B said she hopes I get to come soon. Anyway friend B started a private chat and off the bat asked for my mobile number, I was a little freaked out so I lied and said my phone was broken and when It was fixed she could have it. It all ran smoothly again for a couple of weeks nothing out of the ordinary (around late november now) I got roleplaying with her with our made up characters who ended up getting together, by this time I'd said id found my number. (early december now) I've spoken to her over the phone (friend B still) and whenever I spoke to her or saw a picture of her i'd get really tingly and loads of butterflys would decide to attack my stomach, id go red aswell. By then I was getting nervous because I new I had a crush on her. We still talked, I probably talked more to her than to friend A. We wanted to play a game when I came over that involves biscuits and eating into the middle, first to pull away loses. I was fine with it and so was she, then I asked "but wont it be weird to play that cos you'd be y'know kissing?" She said "hmm your right but im sure we can play it" Me being me asked what she ment and long story short (I mean long story) we ended up admitting to each other we where both Bi, ok so now im a little more nervous, I ended up coming clean and telling her that I liked her, she said she liked me too and that she doesnt care for outer beauty its whats inside... Ok fastforward to today, we've been on webcams, had roleplays that werent with our characters and we've told each other over the phone/ webcam/ whatever that we loved each other she's spoken to me when ive had trouble believing her and I feel really bad, I mean really, really bad that I cant trust her, we havnt met face to face and im really nervous that she's just going to change her mind. Both of us havnt told anyone about us or being bi so I dont think she'd just lie, but i cant trust people (bad childhood whatever you wanna call it) So what should I do, how can I trust her? What should I do when I go over?
Sorry that was so long, thankyou for any help!
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I'm guessing that no one in your school or family knows that you're attracted to girls. I think that you may be afraid this girl may get with you and then turn around and hurt you. That is probably the case with any relationship, boy or girl. I think you need to slow things down just a little bit until you can start hanging out with this new friend, face to face. I'm not sure how far away she lives but going on a few friend dates first will let you know what kind of person she is. People are always different on the phone or the computer but you can get a sense of their real personality when you're with them. After you've spent some quality time with her, you may be able to gain some trust with her. I know you're at that curious age and want to experiment with sex but I would recommend waiting until you're at least 16. I had plenty of opportunity before I turned 16 but I'm so glad I waited because I would have made a lot of dumb mistakes before then. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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You can choose to do a couple of things:
1. Talk to her, explain how you feel I know you have probualy heard this before but it might work.
2. Do nothing until after you see her, see how it feels being with her sometimes it is very different actualy being with a person see how it feels and then decide what to do.
3. STOP NOW this may sound extreme but if you dont trust her and you appear to be having trouble with taking what the two of you have further then mabey you shouldnt be having any knid of relationship with her, if either of you see this as fun instead of anythig serious and you are saying you love each other someone is going to get hurt.
I dont know you or her well enough to tell you which of these is best, consider both your feeling and her's and make a decidion you feel comfortable with.
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