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hello im the girl that asked about boyfriend not asking a girl to stay away but still not replying to her messages etc...
so ive explained to him why this is so important to me and why i considered it a big deal that i would do that for him and why doesnt he wanna do it for me and basically told him like ok if you donnt wanna ask her to stop this and you're not gonna do anything about it then i wouldnt do the same for you, and i then said like its cool don't do it but i cant be in a relationship like this etc....SO anyway he finally said ok im sorry i will talk to her tomorrow...but now im freaking out hahaha do i prefer him to say like hey please stop messaging me ive got back with my girlfirend etc ...or would it be better for him to just keep doing what he did which is ignoring her????
in a way i dont want him to explain to her and ask her to stop trying to contact him cause i dont want her to talk back to him or him feeling bad for maybe hurting her and think it wasnt a good idea to do this for me or something
but in a way i do want him to ask her to stop cause its been 2 months and she's still trying to add him call and text :S not as often as she used to but she is still trying :S
please give me some advice in it what would be better? to maybe just wait til she gives up....or to have him asking her to stop trying ?
thanks alot !
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I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend possibly has a guilty conscience but he is the one who decided to see her when you two broke up. Therefore, Your boyfriend must face the consequences and that is to tell her to stop calling. 2 months is along time but you know what after so long it becomes harassment. Your boyfriend needs to talk to her, If he doesn't know what to say then I'll here are a few examples he could use...
1. (Please stop harassing me, I have a girlfriend and I do not wish to have any contact with you)]
That is a nice and direct way of saying it, However bare in mind that someone who is persistent sometimes needs a more direct and stern way to be told to back off.
2. ( Stop calling me, I want nothing to do with you and harassing me is not going to get you anywhere)
A few years back I had a incident with someone harassing me through text messages, I text them back and told them they were now blocked! and continued to ignore there text messages, Although I didn't REALLY block them because I had a prepaid cell phone but overtime ignoring the text messages apparently she was convinced she was blocked and gave up.
The best thing for YOU, Is to wait until tomorrow to see if your boyfriend confronts the situation. If he does, Then that is the first step. If he doesn't then he probably doesn't care that much to get rid of her. Depending on the person ignoring them is not always going to work sometimes it takes to confront them. Your boyfriend is better off blocking her on facebook, Even if he doesn't use it because again, That is one less way of her attempting to get a hold of him. It also wouldn't hurt for you to also block her so she doesn't try and harass you. If you interfere with the situation you are going to cause stress between you and your boyfriend.
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