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wow thanx for taking the the to reply to me.. it was reely good advice but theres more to ''us''
well the whole phone call thing is that he doesnt ask all once he asks all the time and he doesnt phone back often so its kinda annoying... coz if say im busy or got no airtime then he says things likes "oh im not important anymore or you dony care about me" stuff like that and i feel bad and end up phoning.
we arent in the same school infact his out of school and always busy with something...
the reason why i dont know what to do is because about 3 months ago he told another guy that likes me that i was getting busy, phoning smsing, him during the holiday when i wasnt (im still a virgin), that caused alot of problems between my friend and i.. i eventually smsed my x and told him to leave me alone and that i dont need this nonsense from him...i know that i shoudnt forgive him for saying those things and hurting me like that but i really miss him but if i sms him to say hi then its just not going to make sense because im the one who told him to leave me alone and also after i told him that he smsed a few times and invited me on mxit but ignored him... i dont know whether he has another girlfriend but im not sure whether i even want to hear... this might sound stupid but i know that i need to move on but i just really really miss him:(
thanx again for ur advice and time
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the way i see i see it, you can do either of these 2 things.
A) you can apologize to him about telling him to go away and leave you alone. because after all, you do want to talk to him. the only way you can get that is if you say sorry and that you didn't mean it. if you say that, he will realize that you do want to stay in contact. after you say sorry, and that you still want to talk to him, let him know how you feel. tell him you miss him. but at the same time, make sure he knows that he hurt you when he said those things.make him know that you still care about him as a person, but are unsure of your feelings romantically. that lets him know that if anything happened to him, youd be there to save him and protect him because you care about him as a person. but make sure you make him realize that you are hurt.
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B) move on. yes it is hard. i know because i've had to move on from my first love when he broke up with me (we dated for a year) i was devastated and theres a huge story to it but short story- i dated another guy after him and then my ex wanted to get back together and i sort of wanted to get back together but at the same time felt bad for the guy i was dating right now because i like them both. but in the end, i had no other choice but to move on from my ex.
if you want my personal opinon.. i would say move on. he's not worth your time. all he's going to do is cause more problems. he said those things about you to the guy who likes you. if he does that now, who know what he will do in the future. it just seems like he is a ton of drama and trouble to me. thats just my opinion though.
what you should do is make a list of everything you like about him and everything you dont like about him. see which side has more. if you have more on the side you like about him, then i would say go with option A. talk to him and tell him your true feelings from your heart. whether if its you still love him, or if you just care about him as a person. let him know. however, if you have more stuff on the side you dont like about him, then i would go with option B. move on. he's not worth your time and i think you could find a guy who treats you MUCH better.
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