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still confused, need help
hey.. thanx for the advice i understand what you are saying but whenevER i did that previously, it always ended up where he always asks me to phone him and then its da whole mxit thing abd sometimes he even ignores me until i sms or phone to see what happens and after all this he starts giving me false hope and messing with my head even though i tell him we jus friends... i also know the type of person he is so he will definitly think that i am still inlove with him and thats the reason for the sms.. hes one on those with a big ego....
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and i'm a little confused. you say that it always ends up where he asks you to call him. I dont see why that's a problem. If he wants you to call him, then call him. You don't have to just stick with texting. If you two talk on the phone and it seems like things are awkward or if the topic of you 2 dating comes up, then just switch the topic.
i also wouldn't keep saying- we are just friends. if you keep saying it, he's going to think you're in denial which is just another reason for him to believe youre in love with him. denial is a clue. ESPECIALLY after a break up. instead of saying- we are just friends, try saying something different like "well i should go now. I have other people to talk to". THAT shows that your mind isnt occupied by him. it shows that you have a life outside of him and that you are not interested in him that way.
key thing- play hard to get. not like "hard to get" like the flirting way.. but talk to him, but don't make it seem a big deal. Say hey how was your day, and then say "i need to go bye". don't dwell on him too much. spend like 5 minutes talking to him and then stop. tell him you're busy or you can't talk. if you talk to him for long periods of times, that is another hint that you are "in love with him". or if you see him in school, find another guy to talk with. that lets him know that you aren't just thinking about him. (be careful though. don't want to make him jealous and cause drama or lead on another guy) just casual talk with him and the other guys.
one more thing.. i wouldn't sms him as much. yes its ok if you do it once in a while. like every other 2 days and just say hey hows it going and see how he's doing. but other than that, don't get too carried away. show him that you're over him and PROVE HIM WRONG THAT YOU'RE NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM AND THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE A BIG EGO.
i know guys like him. super huge ego's because so many girls like him and he feels like a rockstar. key thing to remember- show some distance. i know you said you want to keep in contact and be friends. but you can't let yourself get too attached to him. stay back a little. if you walk in the halls with him, slow down a little or speed up. see if he follows you. or stop and talk to a friend and see if he keeps on walking. pretend to text another friend while talking to him. just do anything it takes to make him realize you're not in love with him.. but at the same time, say hi and be friendly. don't be mean to him and shove it down his throat. be nice and friendly but show him that you're not as interested.
if he starts to think that you like him more than friends.. just ignore him and he's not worth it then. tell him he's wrong and then walk away. its not worth your time to change his mind if he acts like that.
i hope i helped and don't be afraid to ask more questions if you need to :)
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